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writes:hi guys, ive just found out that im pregnant and i want to tell my parents but am scared that they will be dissapointed in me. How can i help them understand that its what i want to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 You should call them then, or arrange a webcam conversation so they can see your face. And then when you tell them say "I have GREAT news!!" and then go on. At least then they will know this is what you wanted and hopefully can be happy for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah he is very supportive, and so are his parents. My parents are the type that get dissapointed really easy. I mean i finished school with a higher grade than both my mother and father. Im the only one in my whole family that has completed college. Yet there still dissapointed in me because im still in the same job trying to move up. I feel like a failure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys but the only other problem is that i live on the other side of the country to them. I cant tell them face to face so to speak. I can only msg or call...
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reader, TooGenerous  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 I was 30 when I had my first child. Being in the age group that you are in, it is going to be hard. I hope the father is going to help support you and your baby. On telling the parents - I don't know what type of parents they are!! Are they understanding? Have you been in trouble in the past where they have bailed you out? You really need to assess your relationship with your parents before you tell them. I personally do not believe in abortion, and it seems as if you don't either.
All children are gifts of God. If your family is a Christian family then I would think they would understand. Good Luck!
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (23 April 2010):
 There is no easy way around this. Maybe you should wait till they are in a good mood, and then blurt it out. Make a few jokes about it. Get them laughing, then you will laugh, then you will all live happily ever after.
They are going to find out at some point anyway. I guess that's obvious. But that's the situation.
I wouldn't worry about it too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2010): I fell pregnant at 18 and at the time, my greatest fear was telling my parents so i can relate.Yu can't prevent them from feeling disappointed or angry at first, you need to be understanding of that. My advise is:Sit them down, with or without the father, depending on his relationship with them, and tell them that you're pregnant. Tell them that this is something you want and you have a plan (I hope you have one). The baby is there now and you can't go back. They can choose to be accepting and love this baby or they can turn their backs on you, which you hope they won't do. Plan exactly what you want to say and then just give them some time to gather their thought and to come to terms with the news. Be aware that they may say somethings immediately that might hurt you and that they don't mean but try to be understanding. After 2 weeks of barely being able to look at me, my parents embraced the idea and now I have never seen grandparetns who are so besotted with their grandaughter before.
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