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writes:I was in relationship with a guy who was 6 years younger than me and drunkard. We went around for almost 1 and 1/2 years. We shared a good chemestry but I didn't understand why he had refused my proposal of getting married with him. From the day first he had different reasons to hold the discussion about marriage. When he started taking drinks beyond the limit and stopped going to office, I tried to meet his parents but they abused with all slangs, which made me to get mad at their behaviour whenever we used to meet. I tried second time to meet his parents and lets see their action against me. It was too horrible and when he went away with his parents by leaving me alone on the road, it broke my heart. I decided to give it back to his parents and I asked my brother help, who in turn gave them back their own slangs. The things went worst still he never stopped coming back to me. But I was worried about his life that he will continue taking drinks too much and kill himself one day as he used say so. After all that tantrum, he stopped calling me or meeting me , once in a blue moon I will get call from him after drinks. He says he is not in good terms with his family, he wants to be with me, he reminds my past, He assures me that he will keep on loving me but he cannot get married with me. But my condition is that I have lost all interest in getting married nor I like to converse with guys anymore. I cannot think of getting married with my this guy nor with anyone. I am worried all the time that He will die if he continues drinking like this . Please help
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reader, Red Green 0289  +, writes (24 October 2009):
I don't understand that response at all... she's in love with a drunk, who can't marry her and someone suggests anal sex? I've a huge anal fan, but I don't see the connection...THis guy is alcoholic, you can't help him, his parents can't help him. He needs to get despirate enough to seek recovery through Alcoholics Anynomous, which should have a number of locations in most citys in your country.You can't have a successful relationship with an addict, so long as they put their addiction ahead of you- can't happen, no matter how bad he wants you... he'll want his drug of choice even more, and it will rule and ruin his life.
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reader, Happy_To_Help...=]  +, writes (24 September 2009):
![Happy_To_Help...=] agony aunt](/avatars/9bf7d07b-f6ff-43d6-9f58-1940fefc0a78.png) It could be that he was only with you because he had his 'beer goggles' on, and then when he sobered up he realised who he was with and decided to leave.
I think you should forgive him, he has obviously been through a lot and can do with your support and obviously needs a sexual partner for when he has been drinking again. You should respect this need and be there for him and also remember that us women have a tendancy to be a bit irritating once a month and can often drive our men to alcohol, even at the best of times.
His family seem like amiable people and will eventually come round if you aproach them in the correct fashion. There hostility towards you may stem from unresolved sexual desires towards there son, and they resent the fact he chooses you to gratify his sexual needs and not them. If you try to include them in the intimate moments between you and there son, they may be more open and whelcoming to you when outside of the bedroom. Trying new things in the bedroom, whether it be anal sex or including family members in group sex, can be stimulating and rejuvenating to stagnant relationships and help solve wider issues.
I hope my advice is usefull hunni and everything works out for you x
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