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writes: I am 16 and have been with my boyfriend for a few months now and all we have done is kissed n he has fingered me.problem is i want to go further with him but i dont no how to! i really want to though. he is really experienced and i aint..can you help me please? Reply to this Question
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reader, maritz +, writes (27 May 2006):
hey my angel...oaky! well it's normal to be having those kind of urges to have sex at this age. well first decide if you fully ready. do you want to move on because you bored? or do you want to do it because you think you with the right person?? or do you want to because of group pressure or boyfriend pressure??? these are questions you should be asking yourself... having sexis something we don't realise is actually a big thing... we loosing something we can never ever replace. personally i would rather wait till im with the right person that i know will be willing to wait for the right moment, and they should make you feel like you are comfortable having sex. you don't just want a quik shag( like on the kitchen floor) instead you should give it time and see if you first commited. how you do it is;first speak to your bf and ask him if he would...if so then you should maybe invite over, or ask if you can go somewhere private... making it as romantica as posible... wear the sexiest cloths and offcoarse the best lengerie... i advice blcak... hope the best of luck... oh and ya make him defently use a condom... and have a aesom time:) hope he is hooooooooooooot... he he! you seem aesom and you must defently make the right choich first... then if you 100% ready you must just let the evening flow... if he is experineced and loves you alot..., he will respect you and show you how to do it right!! don't be embaressed im sure he is as nervous and if he has had sex, im sure he was just as nervous... good luck... angel pie ... x x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): Sweetie just go careful here. Your body is very precious and the experiences that you have now will set you up for a healthy (or not) sex life in the future.
I know it is embarrassing but you need to talk this through and make sure you are both ready and willing. Perhaps he is not quite so experienced as you think - guys tend to have a lot of bravado in this area. Whether or not this is the case, please do talk through your reservations with him. Communication is a huge part of sex as it shows trust and honesty. Also, it is vital if you both want to enjoy your experiences, as you need to tell eachother what feels good for you.
It is all about experimenting, and, after you have talked it through, there are many things you can do in preparation. Kiss a lot, and cuddle. Take it as far as you want to at any one time, and never be afraid to say if you are feeling uncomfortable with anything. Do what feels good, touch and caress and explore. Fulfilling sex is about being tender and caring for eachother, not reinacting a porn movie. You are not auditioning or taking an exam, so take it slow.
If he is a good boyfriend and one you care about (and he should be if you are considering giving him your most precious gift), then you have plenty of time.
Don't rush it, enjoy it, and always make sure you use a condom xxx
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (26 May 2006):
 Maybe he doesnt want to push you further as hes not sure thats what you want. Try talking to him and let him know that you are ready for the next step. He is being very considerate if hes not taking it further and hes probably trying to make sure your not rushed into something you dont want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): these things happen naturaly and you will know when the times right, talk to your boyfriend or make the first move he probably feels the same but doesnt know how to go about taking it further.
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