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writes:Ok so have you ever thought about what it is going to be like when you are older or like to have an actual job and family etc. Or when you die? Like I've always tried to imagine my self being 18 or whatever but I never can, like being allowed to go to parties or drink or have sex without getting in trouble. Being able to do all the things you would get in trouble for now, or what its going to be like to be an old person.. ? Reply to this Question
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reader, daletom +, writes (6 October 2010):
As an ancient writer called simply "The Preacher" said,
"What has been will be again,
what has been done will be done again;
there is nothing new under the sun."
So if it makes you feel any better . . . other people have wondered about the same thing.
Take a look at "When I Grow Up To Be A Man" - lyrics at http://www.lyricsmode.com/lyrics/b/beach_boys/when_i_grow_up_to_be_a_man.html ; hear it at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HWSMdcpgJsw or http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5IinaEJ_37g
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reader, xotruelove14ox +, writes (5 October 2010):
xotruelove14ox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGosh, you all are taking this in such the wrong way, I mean I like the answers I know what you all mean, I was just asking, I know adults aren't exactly free either as are kids, but adults also get to choose what they want to do with their lives and kids are being told what to do, what choices to make, and the thing about parties and drinking I was just saying as in like if I go to college ya there's gonna be parties and drinking and smoking, etc. And I was just pointing it out that I can't imagine myself being in college or at a party or drinking or w.e bc right now I'm in school where I've barely reached 2nd base lol, when, when I am in college by then ill probably have gone all the way.. idk I was just saying that I can't imagine what I am going to be like when I get older bc I'm going to have changed so much and like I will have different friends and stuff.. like right now I am in 7th grade (I stayed back this year) and its hard to not know a lot of people or anything and not get to see my old friends..
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Wait and see and enjoy the ride.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (4 October 2010):
 Like being allowed to go to parties...
Yeah... right... because as an old guy I do NOT have to be at work in the morning. I do not have a body that needs a good nights rest to function. I do not have responsibilities that demand I am not hung over at work.
Kids tend to think that adults are free. Adults think kids are free. Fact is neither of us are. Life comes with responsibilities no matter your age.
One thing that changes is that things go slower. You might think 4 years is long to get a diploma, but as an adult, 4 years might be a single project at work. And no summer holidy. Promotion can take a decade if you are lucky in some jobs. A romance? Counted in years, not days.
But one thing, as an old person to a young person, knowing full well you won't listen or even understand.
Don't be in such a rush. Enjoy being young, even being a child. You got DECADES left were you can be an adult woman. So why not play with your toys a bit longer. You can be an adult all your life. But only an old person understands that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): People will tell you what you're SUPPOSED to do when you're older, but the only thing I want to tell you, is that when you get older you should make your life what YOU want it to be. After turning 18, I struggled to make my life into what the world says you should do, go to college, get a job get married and have kids... but the kid part was not for me, so i stopped at marriage, but right now I'm unemployed, and we don't own our own home, yet I don't mind that because I hate the idea of a mortgage. I'm 28 by the way. You need to make your life what YOU want it to be. The most important thing about growing older is that if you're doing it right, you will be a completely different person at 18 then you were at 13, and at 28 again you ought to feel completely different than at 18 (yet still the same child inside, if you can understand what I mean). Never lose your inner child, but always learn from life, and let it make you a better person with a bigger heart, and a broader understanding.
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reader, Boy Blue +, writes (4 October 2010):
When you are older, you always look back on your memories and many people wonder and wish that they could have done things a lot differently. Ironic really.
The future will come whether you want it or not. Enjoy being young and take advantage of it! Live a life that you will never have to regret.
Death comes to us all. Do all the things that would make you happy, enjoy the things you love and keep everyone close to you. It's better to enjoy you entire life happy then end up on your death bed full of regret for one stupid day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2010): Well, I already know that.
Being in my late 40's....
I take care of dying people who are both younger...and older...than me.
As for part of the question "like being allowed to go to parties or drink or have sex without getting in trouble"
Yes, as you get older you will be able to do what you want.
You might drink, and will probably make bad decisions when you do, and have trouble because of that.
You might go to parties and have fun, only to find that they are not so fun in most cases, and liven things up by taking risks that get you into trouble.
You might have sex, and get pregnant, and have to face the decision to either get an abortion or to have a child and be responsible for that child and it's happiness and safety and future.
You won't "get in trouble", but will "get into trouble". We all do in one way or another.
Make sure that you take care of yourself, protect yourself and those that you love, and love yourself as well as you love others.
If you do, 30 years from now you may find yourself lying beside the one true love of your life every night, at peace, with contentment that you simply cannot begin to imagine.
Good Luck.
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