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writes:I dated this guy for about 4 months and everything was great, he treated me good and he was the perfect boyfriend. He told me he cared about me and how much he liked me. He lost his virginity to me and as did i. Before me was his ex of 3 years. While him and i were dating he would tell me hes over her and things werent working out and etc.... he said he wasent talking to her and hasent talked to her in a while. I started hearing things that he was calling and texting her so i confronted him about it and he denied it. but that night he broke up with me. He tolded me that it wasent because of his ex he was just stressed with family problems and he was just under alot of pressure. and he liked me SO much, and before i left he kissed me still. he still keep in contact with me but at the same time he was talking to his ex. He'd ask to go to breakfest a few times and then everyday just text me and see what i was doing and how i was. Its slowed down a bit because he doesnt have a phone and hes pretty much dating his ex again. He still messages me and some things he says are flirty, or sounds like he cares about me. If i dont reply he would send another message.what is he doing!!?
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reader, shiraz *  +, writes (24 February 2009):
hiyah, i found your post hard to understand so if i give the wrong impression then sorry in advance.
has he actually ever told you himself hes back with the ex? never go on rumours or what you heard, i believe in seeing things and hearing it directly from the person involved so the facts are all in order. i never judge on a situation myself until i know the facts, it works better that way for you. the reason im askin as it seems hes pretty much still in love with you! he may have had issues (like we all go through) and he took the other option as a way out of coolong your relationship maybe to really sort his own head out it doesnt mean hes back with her espically as hes kissing and reassuring you hes not, if you were over why would he feel the need to lie?
you went through so much and will never get that from another person so prepare yourself, hes the guy who took it all (literally) and some parts you never get back thats what makes him always a part of you (and vice versa)
he is persistant in contacting you showing hes not willing to let go yet meaning he still feels there is something to hold on to, if he had moved on he would do that to you!
i would agree to meet and talk to him and just ask him to be honest, you need to know where he is in his life and are you a part of his future, be straight to the point of it in order to get your answer, you need it in order to either move on or start a fresh with him thats descion can be made whan you come to it. dont run just yet. good luck xxx
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