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writes:*OP's Original Title*I met this guy last year, who I got really close to and in a way, fell head over heals over. He isn't the nicest guy you could meet, he's the cocky, douche, player, immature guy who happens to be really hot! (haha) So during spring break, we hung out and made out for the first time. We were never going out, we just had a thing for each other. So during spring break, we got closer and it REALLY seemed like he wanted "stuff" from me, and it made me feel good because for months I'd been really wanting things to "spice up" between us. But then spring break was over, and all of sudden he just stopped talking to me! in the matter of about a week. I honestly don't know what happened, what I did, or anything! But apparently he's been treating a lot of other girls like crap and he's been pretty mean to people. And i havent talked to him since the beginning of April. And i really miss talking to him now it's finally hit me now) What's gotten into him?? What could be wrong?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (25 June 2010):
You've answered your own question. No matter how hot he is, he's still cocky, a douche, a player and an immature guy. You didn't do anything. You were used, like all those other girls before you, and all those others after you. The point is, if you go out with a player, you'll get hurt. Hence why it's not a good idea to go out with a player. It's not you at all. He just wanted to use you, and that's what happened.
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reader, Blue Sahara +, writes (24 June 2010):
 What do you mean what has gotten into him?
You described him as " cocky, douche, player, immature". He is just being the jerk that you knew.
Now if he started being nice and sending you flowers and wanting to hear about your day then I could see you saying "What has gotten into him?" but not when he is acting exactly like the guy you knew him to be.
He has no desire to be a decent person when every girl in the world is just going to say he is hot therefore he can treat me like crap. I know as women we think "I can change him. He will see how special I am and change for me." But that simply is not the case.
I think this one of those times where you get flattered by the attention and get crushed when it goes away. I have a friend who jumps from ridiculously cocky, arrogant guy to ridiculously cocky, arrogant guy solely because she feels special that of all the girls, he is talking to her. She always finds out after he leaves that he is talking to a lot of girls.
This is why the nice guy wins hands down. You aren't going to be left by yourself wondering what went wrong.
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reader, JulietCumberland +, writes (24 June 2010):
He treats other girls like this aswell? He doesn't sound nice, as hot as be may be, you shouldn't fall for this guy. You'll only set yourself up to get hurt. Whats gotten into him is.. himself. Its who he is, this is how he treats girls. He won't change for you, and if he did then that means he likes you. Also he hasn't spoke to you in ages, you may miss him, but doesh he miss you? does he feel the same way about you? So far i think not :/
Try to forget about him, and find someone who really deserves you!
Best of luck
Juliet xoxo
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