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writes:I have a woman that I absolutely LOVE to have sexual relations with, I mean, I feel almost addictive about it. We are friends, and we hang out. But the sexual tension is unlike anything I've ever experienced before and our sex is just unbelievable. Mind blowing. There's just an incredible sexual chemistry we have together.We talk and text all day long about what we want to do to each other when we see each other and I find myself thinking about her all day long and constantly turned on. And when she's here, the sex is all night and insanely intense.Thing is, I've never thought this much about someone before. Especially not someone I'm not dating. Couple that with the constant texting, and I've confused myself. We are just fwb. But I can't get enough of her sexually. I crave her. And the feeling is extremely mutual. She talks about how badly she wants me constantly, too. And how she craves it also.I've had f*ck buddies and friends with benefits before, but never did I feel so nearly addicted to them. What's going on with me/us? Is this normal? Anything else like this I've ever experienced, we were sleeping with other people too, and it was cool. And the sex was just for convenience and then we parted ways after and didn't communicate until we wanted sex again. But here, it's just completely different. Super lustful and we are only sleeping with each other, no one else, because it's so good. I don't want to sleep with anyone else because she's the best. Neither does she.What's going on with me/us?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2016): Why do you need to even question it? Just ENJOY it.
It is RARE in this world to find your sexual match. You have found that in each other.
I will tell you that you are both very LUCKY to have found each other. Sexual compatability seems to be a big problem with so many people. And you can see evidence of this on Dear Cupid alone as there are countless qyestions asked about how to get a partner more interested in sex, how to spice things up in the bedroom, how to even find a spark to begin with.
When you find a partner you have mind blowing sex and chemistry with, HANG ON. Chances are high you aren't ever going to
find this again and if you ever did lose this, you would probably spend the rest of your life trying to replace her. But never will. Anyone else you would have sex with would never compare and you would be comparing them all to her. Your best. There isn't anyone better than the best.
My advice. Ride with it. Enjoy the elusive magic you both have in each other. Why the need to explain it? After all, magic is magic. If you need to put a definition on it, it's no longer magic, is it?
I sense you are a little more than FWB though because you seem to share a strong connection as friends in addition to a strong sexual connection. And this is what sets your relationship apart from the rest.
I suspect there are some feelings on both your parts being the driving force behind the already mind blowing sex. And these feelings add an exclamation mark to the sex which is already intense, exalting it, raising it even further up. It's like not just one firework but an explosion of fireworks in constant succession.
So don't question. Enjoy the passion. The chemistry and intensity. And know how lucky you are.
Also enjoy the friendship and nurture it as well. Because I think the connection you share really sets off your sexual fireworks.
Remember, you have a rare thing! RARE.
Keep walking around with that stupid smile on your face and nobody knows why. Only you two. As it should be.
Sex is one of the best parts of being alive. And if you can find what you two have it really makes you feel alive, invincible, euphoric. Live in the moment!! ;)
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 I am happy you both have a great sexual connection, but these types of friendships can lead to someone getting hurt. As long as you are both open and honest with each other then that is all that can be asked from you both.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (10 February 2016):
“Super lustful,” you say. That is the answer to your question: you’ve fallen in lust at least, for this woman. All your sexual needs are being met to your satisfaction, which is why you’re completely focussed on her. You don’t describe any desire for a romantic relationship with her, as you just talk about the sex and it seems that all your conversation is about sex. That leads me to think that both of you have a sexual chemistry and it’s stronger than you have experienced with anyone before. It sounds great: it seems she feels the same. The risk you are both taking is that one of you may form a more romantic, emotional attachment to the other. FWBs sometimes fall in love, and it’s not always reciprocated and leads to some-one getting hurt. I’ve seen this happen so often from my years on this site that it has convinced me that they are best avoided and simply don’t work. But if you want to keep on with this FWB arrangement with this woman and she wants the same, that is up to you. Keep in mind that whilst hooked on a woman with whom it’s FWB, you aren’t making yourself available to the possibility of a deeper connection with some-one else and neither is she. If that’s okay with you, fine.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2016): Here is what's going on with you: you're in lust.
You're not FWB. You are having a full blown love affair and you're in denial.
Enjoy sex with her, go out, live your life to the fullest and don't worry about labels. And remember, it's hard to meet someone who will blow our mind sexually. Consider yourself lucky!
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