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writes:hey ok could you explain this for me please. Basically theres a lad i like and in the past i thought he liked me because he was always staring at me, showing signs and people seemed to act like they knew that he liked me or knew something about us, although he has denyed it to one of my friends over msn but the way he assumed what was going to be asked and how when he found out i liked him he said if hes being honest he's choosing to stay single all sounds abit weird as if he was just hiding it and also theres a girl one of our mates that seem to know something about us and set up to find out off me if i liked him and although she said he don't like you the next day said "he just dont like you that way i think!" now she says i think and also kept asking me over the sumer holidays if i'd heard from him and wanted to add me in a conversation with him one day although for some reason that never happene. My mate thee reckons he might of wanted to tell me something and then chickened out.But the thing is i just dont get how he is behaving now he was the same last year to(college year wise)like one day he can be absolutely fine with me, talking to me no problem, not nervous making sort of a conversation generally acting like we're friends and then the next he hardly talks to me which is ho he normally doesas if he can't start a conversation and when he does talk to me something doesn't seem right and he seems kinda nervous and i can just sense there is something there. Also he stares at me a lot but mainly when we aren;t in a group of people talking and stuff it's either when there aint many of us there or the rest are talking and he's being quiet like in clas or something.Like for example last friday he came in in the morning we spoke fine just like friends, although towards the end of the day he was more quiet with me and staring more we spoke quite a lot as friends however in the morning we were talking normally but when the others came in he was mainly talking to them and not me. But like the other week he was staring at me loads and on the tuesday(and i say this because normally he dont talk to me) he walked past me n goes "alreight" bt very quietly,softly and kinda nervously, he didn;t stop just carried on walking, staring at me that day and then when he went to cross the road to the shop i was at the bus stop and he kept looking at me and then turning back an then as e crosses he turned around took one quick look at me turned around again and then turned back and took one quick wave. Also the next day was well werid he was staring at me loads but when there was me him and another girl out our class he was talking to us fine, it wasn;t aimed at me what he was saying just talking in general but he was fine. But then at the end of the day it was well werid we were walking out and he said i think i'll go home and i said yeah me to in half hour and he said why half an hour and i said because i missed this bus. But these were just one word and like before when he used to be weird with talking to me and as we got outside normally he'd just go and not say anything or he;d just say cya tomorrow normally and then go but he didn;t! As we got otuside i was trying to ring a mate and he sorta started to speed up at first when we were walking out as if he was gonna go but then he slowed down so did i and he more or less stopped and stood with me for like 30 seconds and then he was just quiet and then he goes "sooo i'll er *paused* i'll cya tomorra then yeah?" but i didn;t quite hear him and he said it again "so err i'll cya tomorra....yeah?" thing is he seemed so nervous when he said it and he wanted an answer off me he was waiting for me to say yeah! he saud it so softly and i could tell something really wasn;t right at all, i wish i;d of said something to him now at the time. And then the next day he was staring at me as usual quite a bit but sill seemed nervous. My mate reconed that cya ting was all because he wanted to talk to me and stuff. Thing is i added him on msn a while ago and he never aded me so i really don't know.He;s one of the nicest lads you'll ever meet he can be a bit shy but i don; think he;s the type to ever have a serious gf. My mate also says he thinks hes likes me but hes confused because he says he wants t stay single and stuff and i agree with the way he acts but he also says maybe he hasn;t admitted it to himself. But i dont get what he means by that, if this lad liked me then people do know. How does he mean not admitted it to himself, how wold he be feelings? i'm nt a lad so im not sure about that. Why do you think he;s acting like this? do you think the same as me?
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reader, yukiakashi  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 i think he likes you but he's too shy or maybe not ready to get a steady girlfriend. He may have had experiences in the past that made him scarred or could he could be just shy.
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