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writes:Right can you try and help me figure out what's going on. There's a lad I've liked for some time and we are pretty good friends but for some reason he's so different with me. It's hard to explain so I'm just gonna list different situations to show you how he is with me. Sometimes I think he likes me back other time I don't. He has stared at me a lot and has done for some time. The thing is when reading this please consider we are in the same class and I don't know why but people say stuff about us an it gets to both of us. They like to stir it and one girl in particular is very jealous and because of something that happened last year (it sounded like this lad admitted he like me from what I heard,) she turned everyone against me, since this I was told it was because she thought I was gonna take this lad off her but the way it happened and what was said makes me think he admitted it. They just don't like us hanging around outside college toegther really.Anyway could you try and figure out these things it really weird, he's so different with me all the time it's different every day, every week....1) somedays he hardly talks to me at all and when I talk to him just there's something weird in the way he answers back, a mix between nervous, can't talk to me, or sometimes it seems like he don't want to or something... whereas other times he can just walk in and never shut up and treat me like everyone else.2) Depending on who's there SOMETIMES affects how he is with me and what we talk about sometimes he won't talk about stuff we've done and stuff we woul only talk about yet others he will.... it's normally if I start the conversation though.3) Ok I find this weird but it might be nothing but we sit toegther in most lessons, have done since October, yet like if in a common room there's a seat between me and another person in the class he won't sit in the middle if I'm there and won't sit next to me in the rooms but will others.. even the ones he doesn't really talk too much... hmmm4) As I say he seems to have a problem like there's a barrier stopping him talking to me yet he's normally quite confident, I mean that in general sometimes it is different but it depends. Like he won't start conversations with me on msn or owt or like if he finds a funny video or something or gladly shows other people and stuff.. not me5) He gets on with all my mates... and is fine with them... not me!6) He's a bit different with me out of college but we still always get dead awkwad silences we never know what to say to each other.7) There was one time and it's like certain days he'll talk to me laods and we'll be like best mates and I went to a gig where he was that night (it was the night we broke up from college for xmas) and we were just messing around loads like anyone normally would and then he started talking to me about loads stuff on msn after. It was like a miracle happened!8) He seems to have a general communication problem with me dunno what it is but we met up with another lad we knew the other week and he says hi and stuff to him but just stares at me it's like he can't say hi to me he has to look at me, he's done this before!9) It's very rare he texts back. He does this to everyone though, not all the time but sometimes.10) Sometimes when I talk to him it's like he's just fed up of me or just nos along he can't always seem to make a conversation back as I've said.Also I'll just add on to the end of it when we went out with that other lad we were shopping and something he said to me was pretty nice and the way he said it. When we're out of college yes he's still as bad as in college with the he won't just randomly talk to me like he will others. Ok I'm a girl as well but he has no problems with other girls hes good friends with, I can understand he finds it easier to talk to the lads. But he knows I'll listen and that we like the same stuff. But when we are out of college you can just sense not necessarily he's more relaxed but I can't describe it... it's like he will go for it a bit more, I suppose he has got a bit more confidence or the fact we're away from the others I don't know.What's going on???!! Why am I treated so differently! So sorry this is long but he's so different it's so hard to figure out. I can't actually talk to him at this moment about this but please give me your opinion on what you think and it would help loads!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): I'm sorry to say hun, but it sounds like, he's just not that into you. When a man loves a woman, there is nothing that can stop him from wanting to be with her, around her and with her whenever he can. Stop wasting your time trying to figure him out and find someone who shows you exactly how he feels about you, you will be much happier.
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