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writes:I've not long got out of a rubbish relationship, no feelings for a long time so I'm not worried about the moving on bit tbh.I have met someone new though. We met on a singles site and have been out about 8 times in the last 3 months. I really like him and we get on so well. There's yet to be any awkward silences or things that from my side actually annoy me.My concern is we seem to be on go slow. He's kissed me once or twice at my car after a date or two. Hugs me when we meet and split. And the few times I've gone back to his we've sat close and cuddled up and have kissed more freely in his home.But that's it. I'm starting to think something's up and don't wanna knock what's generally going so well. He mentioned meeting friends but that didn't happen and he seems less inclined to be touchy in public.What's going on? Is he just shy or am I embarrassing or just being led on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys! I think I was more worried about him not really being all that in to me. I really like him and realise it is only a few meetings but we get on so well I freaked a bit at the idea of being friend zoned haha! I on one hand really don't want to rush things at am enjoying it more because we're not..but on the other I think maybe it's physical stuff would put my mind at ease. I will try and relax and enjoy what happens as it happens.
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reader, lifesgreat +, writes (10 August 2014):
sounds a bit shy to me. Yeah you have been dating for 3 months but only met 8 times.
Some blokes don't like to push women as they don't want to seem they are only after one thing.
Maybe take it as a good thing he wants to get to know you?
maybe you should make the first move or push him in the right direction.
Also affection in public , again to do with shyness I would say
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (9 August 2014):
 What exactly do you want to happen? Kissing every now and then, hugging and cuddling up in his apartment? That just sounds like normal dating to me. Also why do you want to rush in to things? Its not been long since you have gotten out of a rubbish relationship so surely going slow is for the best?
I don't really get what the problem is, is it the fact you haven't had sex yet? Or is the fact this guy seems to lack passion?
Also as for the public thing, he might be shy when it comes to showing public displays of affection, it isn't uncommon, I don't like showing public displays of affection just because I think of all those times i've walked down the street and seen two people snogging and thought "get a room".
He also might be laying off because he knows you haven't long come out of a relationship. So he is probably putting your feelings first.
However you said that the conversation flow seems good, no awkward silences, however he just seems to be taking it slow to get to know you physically, which isn't that much of a bad thing when you think about it.
I don't think you are being led on, I think he's doing a lot of things right, however if you want someone with a bit more "mojo" then obviously you might have to look somewhere else. Also why not remind him about the whole friends thing? Or why don't you suggest to do something.
Good Luck x
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