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*rangeyouglad
writes:Well, I met this guy at a party, he seemed like a relatively nice guy. After that, we met a few more times at a few different parties, alas I developed a crush. We then started getting close to each other, we'd see each other on a weekly basis, sometimes twice a week (we study in different colleges and what not). We'd watch movies, get food, have drinks. We'd talk everyday without fail. About everything. Conversations were...very open. We'd talk about sex frequently, about personal things, very personal things (like family, personal problems,love,life). It was good.Throughout the mentioned friendship, he had a thing for this friend of ours, they fooled around, but she wasn't into him emotionally and that ended. While he was into her, he didn't stop talking to me or anything, still everyday we'd talk and every week we'd meet up. Then, the problem starts. He meets this girl and they become an item; that's when everything basically stopped. The talking, the meeting up...everything. It was odd, from everyday to a sudden stand still of no talking for maybe 2 weeks. I decided to be the bigger person and initiated conversation. It was short and prompt, maybe I was over analyzing. We continued to talk...rarely. Maybe once in 2 weeks or something. Then one day he just randomly texts me an old message I had sent to him. He was reminiscing about a night we went out. Then after that, I invited him out for drinks, like we used to do routinely, at our regular place. We had the drinks and tried to talk, but it wasn't the same, we talked, but it wasn't as animated or fun. It's confusing me, I never found out how he viewed me, if it was just as a friend or more. But I miss my him and this is just all so confusing. I care for him a lot, and it doesn't matter if he's someone elses boyfriend, I'll settle for being friends with him, but.. from what we were to what we are now? It's too big of a difference. What I want to know is...what would make him stop talking to me so suddenly? (I don't think it's his new girlfriend because she has never met me and we don't know each other.)
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 August 2010):
 You're welcome, I just wish there was a different reason that I could see. Good luck in the future!
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reader, Orangeyouglad +, writes (7 August 2010):
Orangeyouglad is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThat made total sense. Thanks dirtball.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (5 August 2010):
What would make him stop talking to you so suddenly?
This isn't going to be easy for you, but here it is. You were a romantic option for him. Your flirty dates were his way of keeping you on the line while he was playing the field. When he had the brief hookup, the communications didn't stop because he wasn't sure it would last with her and so he wanted to keep his options open. Now, with his new GF, he's really into her. He cut the line because there was no need in his eyes anymore to have a fallback. He likely was thinking about you because they had a fight or a rocky moment and that's why he texted you out of the blue.
You're right that his GF likely didn't tell him to quit contacting you, although if she found out about you she probably wouldn't be too happy.
Ultimately, I'm thinking you should do your best to forget him. While he didn't do anything wrong as far as lying or cheating, he has obviously decided to back away from your friendship. Continued pursuit of it on your end will likely only lead to heartbreak. You can tell him you miss what you had, but my gut tells me it isn't likely to change anything. I'm sorry.
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