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writes:*OP's own title* I feel like I can officially say I'm over my old boyfriend. We're in a foreign country, however, and have to live together in the same house for the next three weeks until I go home. I had some suspicions that the guy was cheating on me with some chick from Europe, and as I found out yesterday, he did; I talked to the girl and she sent one of the e-mails he'd recently sent her. She speaks horrible english and posted the e-mail within 30 seconds of me asking; I KNOW she didn't write it herself. I told my [ex] bf what I'd discovered and told him it was over. Today, however, he's acting all sorry and crying and telling me he wants me back.So I want to play him, at least until I'm back in the States. You know, tell him I forgive him and all that, give him a good stern lecture, get him on his hands and knees begging. And then, when I go home, never contact him again. ...or something like that. Would never contacting him again be the meanest, most painstaking way to do it to him, or do you have any other suggestions?Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2010): Bring another guy home and screw him the night before you leave. Make sure your boyfriend hears you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (3 April 2010):
 What you suggested is already the meanest way. I wonder if after a period of time or somewhere down the road , you would regret or have remorse about what you plan to do .
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (3 April 2010):
 Well, I'm really sorry that this guy cheated on you. He's a jerk and he deserves to be broken up with. However, do you really want to kind of sink to his level and play a game with him just like he did to you? I mean you know the pain of someone you love disrespecting you, so why turn around and do the same thing? I'm not trying to defend him in any way, but I'm trying to defend you. Believe me, it doesn't feel good to play these games with someone, or to try and get someone back, no matter what they do to you. I have been on the receiving end of someone never returning my calls, or never getting in contact with me again, and it is frustrating and hurtful to no end. So yes, your idea would be one of the most heartbreaking way to end things. Especially because he thinks now that you are ok with him, and the fact that he already (rightfully) feels guilty.
In no way am I defending the guy who cheated on you. I really think you should call him up right now and break things off if breaking up is your intention. I know I could never be with a cheater. But going out of your way to intentionally hurt someone who has hurt you, especially someone you used to really care for potentially hurts you in the end. Go about the right way, be the better person for your sake, and break things off clean cut. I assure you that you'll feel better about things as opposed to the method of dragging things out in the name of revenge. Best of luck to you.
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