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writes:What would be the definition of being addicted to porn websites? For instance, when a guy looks at porn once every night, does that mean he is addicted? Or if a guy looks at it every other night does that mean he is addicted? I just don't know how much a guy should look at porn to have the title of being addicted. What is your opinion? thanks everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2007): The question "What would be the definition of being addicted to porn websites" suggest's to me that maybe you do have a problem otherwise you wouldn't have t ask anyone else. Addicton is not about a specific substance or amount, its about behaviours. Some of the questions I wold ask myself is...
1. Am I doing it to chqange the way I feel ?
2. Am I ashamed of what I am doing ?
3. Would I be ashamed if others knew what I was doing ?
4. Is this afecting my interactions with other, for example does this fill th usual need or replace the need for a reltionship.
There is no straight answer YES or NO answer here, I myself do watch the occational porn movie and know th damage it does to me, it makes me look as females as objects instead of people, prevents me from forming loving careing relationships with the opposite sex and always leaves me feeling empty after I've had a fix. I believe what I'm tru;y in search of is intamcy and I wnt find that in porn of any sort.
Maybe this website will help http://72.52.143.94/node/10 its for a 12 step fellowship of Sex & Love addicts anonymous, it may not apply to you but it may also help.
http://www.slaafws.org/
Good luck and God Bless ya, I wish you luck on your journey through life and may you find the peace you are seeking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): Yeah I agree with everybody. Like for instance, my bf has these smutty magazines and everytime I am not around for a while(I don't always stay with him), I notice he takes them out and probably views them (guys get lonely and horny). That is ok. But everytime I am with him, sometimes for weeks on end, he does not go near those magazines and much rather prefers to have sex with me. And we have a great sex life. Now if he was still having the urge to view them while I was with him and sneaking off to look at them in my presence, then that is not normal and that would probably indicate an addiction. So if they use porn as a substitute for sexual arousal cause you are UNAVAILABLE, that is ok. But if they prefer the porn to actual sex or even feel like they still need to look at it even when you are physically available, then that is an addiction. And its NOT ok.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): when someone has an addiction, it means the source of the addiction is in control, not the person...it makes people think they can't live without. so if that person had no access to porn for a couple of weeks, they would have real withdrawel symtoms, lythargy, anxiety, nervousness, they would think about it obsessively.......also, in many cases addictions escalate, so what turned you on in the beginning no longer suffices, they have to 'surf' for more hard core material and in the end the porn can make it so the person cannot have sex with their partner without the visual stimulation.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 an addiction to me would be that you would need to watch it everday and you think about it everyday..once a week or maybe twice a week to me would not be an addiction providing youre not thinking about it all the time, quite alot of people think about sex in a week although not all of them fantasize or think about it all the time either..some people have high libdos so they have or watch pornos alot more than average people so maybe they watch it 3-4 days a week oppose to 1-2 days a week so it all varieys really on the person..hope this helps A xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): Hey, I think porn is disgusting. I know some guys that talk about it during the day when me and my girlfriends are in hearing distance. That is addicted. They talk about things they saw on the playboy channel last night. And we just don't wanna know! So that is addicted in my opinion. I think if they go on a website once a day its too much. I don't think they should look at it at all! But that's my opinion x
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