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writes:ok i hope this questions isn't dumb, but i'm genuinly confused.....the other night i was at my boyfriends house and i had my legs wrapped around his waist and i was kissing his neck and everything (it's his "special spot") anyway i noticed he started breathing really heavily. i stoppped kissing after a while and just wanted to hug and after pulling away to adjust my position (my legs were getting sore) i felt that my thighs were a little wet (it wasn't me i know that). what the hell hapened? i was too scared to ask my boyfriend, i don't know whether he orgasmed becuase i never felt his part up against me and nor did he jolt or respond in anyway that would indicate this.Also I want to know, if he did orgams, could i get pregnant? he had on boxers and i had on my panties but that was it, no penetration..... does it matter, could i fall pregnant?please help i'm so confused and worried right now.Allie
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2007): naah your not. i mean you would seriously know if he had an orgasm, its pretty hard to contain. maybe he was sweating from the excitement. and IF he did, i mean you had underwear on, the chances of the sperm getting up there is slim.
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reader, CarrieMagdelene  +, writes (4 February 2007):
 I like the way you spell your name. Anyways...
It's really not likely that you're pregnant, because there was no penetration, and it's not easy for sperm (live sperm) to get through your panties AND his boxers. It's likely you were in a position that you weren't aware of his erection. As a common misconception, not all guys 'jolt' when they 'cum', or ejaculate. My boyfriend describes it at 'a nice, relaxing, smooth piss'. Interesting, I thought. By the sounds of his breathing, he was definately climaxing.
If your period is late, I'd get a pregnancy test just to be really sure you're not pregnant. Don't stress over it, because that can cause a late period.
-Carrie
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reader, Nikita +, writes (3 February 2007):
 Its very unlikely that you're pregnant and it does sound as if he ejaculated, yes. If you're concerned about your period and its late then take a test but I would say that you dont have to worry about that. If you do move onto the next stage as regards being intimate then make sure you use protection. Take care. x
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reader, cd206 +, writes (3 February 2007):
 It's really unlikely that sperm would get through his boxers and your knickers but it is possible. They're small enough after all. It sounds like if you're not 100% sexually active yet that you will be soon so it might be a good idea to visit your doctor and have a chat about contraception so that you don't have this worry in the future.
CD
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reader, TygersDream  +, writes (3 February 2007):
 There's no harm in asking him if he just orgasmed in his pants, it's a natural part of a sexual relationship. If you think he'll be embarrassed, don't make too much of it and don't joke about it. Just ask a simple question, then that'll clear up your worries.
And why are you scared of asking him? If you're afraid of doing things that might tick him off or make him angry at you, then ask yourself if this is such a healthy relationship after all. PLEASE be honest with yourself, ok?
As for the possibilities of you getting pregnant? The highest percentage of getting pregnant is when he actually penetrates and ejaculates inside you. There is also a slight chance you might get pregnant if he is penetrating you but pulls himself out JUST before he ejaculates.
This is possible because:
When he is aroused, a clear fluid will appear from his penis. It might just be a drop or so. This clear fluid isn't his sperm, but it DOES have some of those little guys in there, so even though he hasn't officially "cum" yet, he's still moving inside you with that clear fluid containing some sperm. in short, if you are fertile and his swimmers are pretty strong, you can get pregnant if neither of you are taking contraception.
More importantly, however, SEX (if you do get around to doing it) isn't something that you take lightly. It's a physical and emotional commitment. Your non-sexual lives together should be fulfilling and loving and special. He should make you happy just by the little and big things he does for you like walking you to school or remembering your birthday or even holding your hand. Don't give yourself to this guy just because you think everybody's doing it or because you think he's the one.
I know I sound like an old bag right now, but 13-15 is a very early age to start thinking about HE"S the one let alone sex.
Hold on to your common sense. Don't be afraid of asking questions. DOn't be afraid of being strong or brave or doing the right thing. The right thing is usually the hardest to do. That's why people usually fall by the wayside. Don't disappoint yourself, ok?
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