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writes:So im 14, and he is 18. I met him at my friends party and we made-out that night. We talked every weekend after that and he always asked me if i wanted to chill and i would always be busy or he would but it would mostly be me. Then, on halloween i wanted to see him so bad so i went with my friend to a party he was at. I was so excited to finally see him and after just 10 minutes of seeing him we were making-out. The thing is, we were both also drunk. But not so much. Then later that night every thing was going great and my friend and i went back to his house. We didnt have sex but we got pretty close. It felt so good and i didnt want to stop but i did. Everything was going great. The next day he asked me if i wanted to hang out with him. This time we were both sober and it wasnt the same. We barely had anything to talk about and it was painful because i really do want us to work out and the thing is i really do like him and im sure he liked me too. We didnt even kiss that night. Later that night i texted him saying sorry about tonight there was just a lot on my mind and he never replied. Im so sad i dont know what to do. Please someone help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): I agree with most of these answers!!! YOU ARE 14!!! you shouldn't be drinking at that age..It is ILLEGAL!!!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 November 2009):
 I'm happy I was able to help. Love seriously STINKS sometimes. The person you think is great isn't interested, while the guy who is goofy and sooooo not attractive keeps asking you out. It gets better. Well, sort of. Even people in their retirement homes ask the question "Does he like me?" "Does she like me?" That pretty much stays the same. Unfortunately.
Thanks for the follow up! You get out there and remember that you are the person who can take the best care of you desspite what your mother believes)... so best get started ASAP!
Best to you,
Tisa
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reader, xoblondie1 +, writes (4 November 2009):
xoblondie1 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Tisha, after i read what you said i realized it is very true! i mean, i know that i want him to ask me out and for him to be my boyfriend but to him he just wants me for something else! Your right, that it isnt going to work. Thanks for your imput i feel better.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 November 2009):
It was awkward because he realized that you weren't going to be an easy lay--you actually want to talk! And you didn't have sex even though you were drunk.
You're getting this straight from someone who has been there: this is not going to end well. Being drunk removes your normal boundaries and you wind up doing things you really wouldn't do if you were sober. He probably isn't really looking for a 14 year old girlfriend. You probably have a lot of fantasies about being with him as a couple. You two have very different ideas about what this thing between you is and where it will wind up.
Love at first sight is such a wonderful concept. But meeting a guy at a party, getting drunk and making out with him isn't technically love at first sight. That falls into a different category.
To him, it was probably just a drunk make out session. My guess is that it happens to him a lot.
Just be very very careful and do not get your hopes up for him, okay? Your heart is a lovely wonderful thing and deserves to go to a guy who has earned it by being a wonderful person himself. You don't find that out in just a couple of hours; it takes time to get to know someone.
Take good care of yourself.
PS Alcohol makes things seem easier and more fun, but it actually causes a lot of pain, hurt and problems for the people who do not understand and respect its potency. It does't make you funnier or cooler or more fun to be around, it's just the opposite.
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reader, dulce*candy  +, writes (4 November 2009):
 wow i dont think you should be drinking and going to parties and getting close to having sex at FOURTEEN!!!!!
and that guy is 18 let it go...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): If you like this guy, you need to back off. They don't call girls your age "jail bait" for no rason. Any sexual contact between you and he could eaisly land him in prison and there's not a judge in the world who's going to let an adult who "molests" a child off lightly. You're 14, he's an adult- a fwe years ago a 16 year old girl was arrested, found guilty and thrown in prison for giving her 15 year old BF a blow job. She was stupid and did it a school and was caught. She's now a conivted felon, and a sexual offender, can't get a job and must check in with the police when ever she moves. Fair, NO, but it's the law... get smart, act your age and don't date adults till you are one... This is NO GAME...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2009): What you need to do is concentrate on being a 14 year old girl. You don't need to be drinking and hooking up with guys who are legal. Of course you didn't have anything to talk about.
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