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writes:I found out 6 months ago that a friend of mine that i have known for 3 years, that i have always liked, liked me back. But things have moved slow, due to various reasons. I thought things were just becoming clear, that we were ready to actually start dating properly, up till now we have been seeing each other out with friends, but we have only had the opportunity to be alone or see each other alone on a few occations. But i'm a little confused by something she said to me tonight. She said "I think about you a lot too. The only thing that worries me is your feelings for me because I don't know what will or won't happen between us and I want so badly to avoid you getting hurt because you're such a sweet angel and deserve nothing but good things and happiness. I've caused a lot of people heartache in the past and I worry I will do the same to you :(. I think the more time we spend the more we will know what is the right thing to do."I haven't ever had a long term girlfriend, and she has had a number of boyfriends. So i'm thinking this could just be lack of experience on my part, that i'm feeling negative about this. Maybe I have let my emotions become to advanced too soon, and should still just stick it out, and see what happens.I guess i'm just asking for any advice, reassurance any one has. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2008): It means she might not be ready for a long term relationship/have a real boyfriend/date you exclusively. She genuinely thinks you're a good guy, probably likes you genuinely, but at this point... she doesn't know if it's going to last.I'm sorry man, this happened to me too. Girl told me basically the same thing. She liked me but she finds lots of guys attractive, know what I mean? People always try to do good; at least she's trying to let you know dating her might end poorly. It's your choice. I personally did not date the girl I kind of liked, who liked me back; sometimes the friendship is better. If you really want to you can, but I just dated other women instead. No I wasn't happy, but being friends with this girl is a different story from dating, I don't know how it would've worked out for me.You can meke your own decision, choose wisely.
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reader, Phoenix-Rose  +, writes (15 June 2008):
I think, but dont take my word for it, that what she means is that you have been friends for a while and you were probably really close so if anything were to happen she knows how much you like her and it would break your heart and ruin your friendship if you ever broke up. sorry if i'm not much help but maybe you should just ask her and see what she meant
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