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writes:I am in love with my best friend. He and i work together and we see each other every day including weekends. I know his family very well and he knows mine. I even spent a long weekend with him and his family in Arizona. I feel like I've known him forever! Here is the problem. He is going through a divorce (his wife wanted out). He's been an emotional wreck. He and i have been very close and we started to sleep together. For the past few months he slowly stopped having sex with me (just wants me to give him oral sex). I do it cause i just love him. He tells me having sex with me is making him confused. Whatever, i said fine whatever you want. Anyway i just found out that he has been communicating with an old high school friend that he hasn't seen in ages. She's married with 2 kids. She's totally smitten with him and she's flying to spend 4 days with him! He never told me about it and i found out cause I'm snoopy! I confronted him and he said its nothing and that she's just a good friend. Well i know for a fact that she's booked a room so they can spend time together. I'm going nuts cause i feel so betrayed and used. I mean he wont have sex with me and says he loves me, but has no problem screwing her? Im an attractive woman single, no kids and she's a this soccer mom whose just captivated his interest. I feel like such a loser. How do i stop being so obsessed with him? I'm so jealous and angry that i can't focus on anything. I don't know what I'm going to do in a couple of weeks when she comes here. He and i are always together... i feel so lost and empty. I even emailed him asking him to define what he thinks of our relationship and so far he hasn't responded. Please i need some help cause I'm just messed up.
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reader, mandyx99 +, writes (7 June 2009):
 ok i think that if he stopped having sex with you then maybe its because he has stopped feeling the same way he used to about your relationship.i think that you should stop talking to him,thinking about him and u should try to look for a different guy that likes you and that you like him so that way you could get your mind off of your best friend...
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (7 June 2009):
 What relationship? You don't have a relationship. At best this is a friends with benefits situation. You were sleeping with a married man without any type of commitment because you wanted to.Since he is single, he decided to date someone else. You don't have any claim on him because you're not his girlfriend.Try going out and meeting some single men. Going out and having some fun will help you get your mind off him. Next time, please don't settle for relationship crumbs...find an honest, single guy and get the whole loaf!Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): Oral sex doesn't confuse him??? But intercourse does???
Strange Concept! He's using you, I'm sorry to say!
I know that hurts, but keep your dignity and get out! You be the one to move on! Don't sit around waiting for him to hurt you more than he already has!
I wish you better luck with your next relationship!
Watch out for the red flags!
Britt
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reader, papercat +, writes (7 June 2009):
You shouldnt be so obsessive lol, trust me he can tell and he doesnt like it. I would suggest stop wasting your time with him- he isnt worth anything. And if he knows you are obsessed and he is interested in other women, it will never work out, sorry D;
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