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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months now and it's been going pretty good so far...well, sort of. He's smart, funny, attentive, compassionate, caring, and great in bed. The only thing is he doesn't have a job! When I met him he was working but it was a temp job so it ended in July. He's been applying at different places but he tells me that none of them have called him back. I know it's only been two months but he really needs to get a job because we live about 45 min. away from each other and it's difficult for him to see me when he doesn't have gas money. I've seen his efforts in trying to find a job so I have tried to be accomodating, like instead of him coming all the way to my part of town we meet halfway but sometimes he doesn't even have gas money to go that far. It can get frustrating at timesEven though I'm only 21 I consider myself to be an independent woman. I mean I live with my mom but I pay half of all the bills and I have a car and a full time job. My boyfriend is 21 also lives with his parents but they don't require him to pay bills or anything like that. I really think there's nothing more sexy than a man who can hold his own and who can take care of his woman. I mean, I love my boyfriend, but I honestly would be much more attracted to him if he was working. I am a patient person and everything, but how do I go about encouraging my boyfriend to get a job without making him feel bad or putting him down?
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reader, planepocket +, writes (3 February 2009):
It sounds like jobs are hard to come by in his field.Maybe he should try for a job in another state.You guys could also start/buy a business together or buy an apartment building and live in one of the units and rent the rest out.He could be landlord and do maintenance around the place.
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