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writes:hey at the min i am trying to get over i truley loved because there has been a lot that has happened and in the end he decided that he only liked me as a friend and i no i shudnt have done but i sort of had a go at him so he now hates me and he has now allegedly "fallen in love" with someone else and it is so breaking my heart i am finding it so hard to get over him any tips to make this pain go away quicker please help thanks a lot xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): The pain will not go away overnight but time is the greatest of healers, you won't think it at the time, but you will get over him. Go out with friends, have a laugh. Talk about it to as many people as you can and get the whole thing off your chest, don't bottle it up - that is the worst thing you can. Is there anything that you have always wanted to learn or do? A hobby or a sport, maybe learn to play the guitar, or go to salsa classes with a friend. Light hearted stuff - nothing heavy. Keep in touch if you want.
Take care
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reader, Farris +, writes (20 March 2007):
 You had every right to have a go at him! You were angry because he broke your heart! I think the first step would be to explain this to him. Apologise for the things you said, but you have to make him understand that he had hurt you.
I think if you can do this then maybe you'll feel a little more closure on the whole thing and maybe you'll blame yourself a little less, for what invariably was his actions anyway. In this way, you can start the process of getting over him.
Tips to make the pain go away? I'm sorry hun, but I'm not sure that there are any. There are several ways that you can distract yourself, and get on with your life though. Spend a lot of quality time with your family or friends... Or even your pet (Dogs can be very sensitive to your emotions)! Pick up old hobbies, start new ones. Exercise more. Dance, sing. Do up your hair, make-up and change into a "going out" outfit for no reason, other than to see how good you look.
It may feel like it will never get better right now, but it will. Just carry on with your life and the pain you feel will eventually fade.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): Hi Sweetie, I really feel for you. The only advice I can offer is that time really does heal things, and Im saying that as 3 months ago I was posting very similar messages to yours on here myself! I got horribly dumped at Christmas and I though I was going to die of heartache! Im still sad about it but am sooo much better than I was.
What helped me was talking to my girlfriends and this website (that is how I found this site actually - I was googling 'how to get over him' and things like that!
It's not easy getting over somebody you love, but give it a little time Sweetheart and you will.
Good luck xxx
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