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writes: Hello people, I hope you can give me some advice. I have been seeing my boyf for about a month and things have been going really well. However, we had a bit of a row the other day and it's still bugging me. Basically we went to a club and his friend paid for me to get in and becuase I didn't offer to pay his friend back (it was only a few pounds), my boyf got annoyed and kept going on about it. It made me feel small, and a bit stupid, so I walked out (we were both drunk btw). A few minutes later he followed me out, and we talked about it. I said I didn't need him to tell me what to do and how to act, but really I think I am kind of annoyed with myself because I know that I would not have offered any money or anything and that makes me look very selfish. I said we should go back in the club so this did not ruin the night with his friends, and he reluctanly agreed, although he thought we still had not resolved it. I ended up giving his mate the money and then dancing with them all night and they seemed to enjoy themselves, although out of the corner of my eye i spotted him sat down with another friend (female) not looking too happy, and it looked as though they were talking about me. When we left, he started to go on about it again saying that he considered not coming out after me when i walked out becuase I made him feel small for walking out, he said for a moment he just thought "f**k it, I am worth more than that", which also really up-set me, even though he did come out after me in the end. I am confused now, am I making something out of nothing? and how did this turn into such a big deal? I tried to salvage the evening, bearing in mind that I do not know his friends, and he was still annoyed. We have been ok since this, and he just said not to bother to talk about it as we were both drunk... but i don't know...
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reader, snowbird  +, writes (7 September 2006):
 I would also add to the other posting from BabyGirl that if he does not know you that well it could have appeared that you may be a bit of a 'scrounger', and this is something which is important to address, and provide proof that you are nothing of the kind, by perhaps paying for someone else in future, or buying a round of drinks, so that he may see you for being the generous person you are?...First impressions really DO count!
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