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writes:Am I bisexual, or a lesbian? I`m more attracted to women than men. 9/10 times I fantasize about women instead of men. I search PlayGirl online. When I do think of men, its more on an emotional level. I cant see myself falling for a woman. I am completely uninterested in penis. I`m not physically into boys except, say, Jude Law. I could form a romantic relationship with a guy, but not a girl. I watched Glee and it said its not about who you have sex with, its who you love? If thats the case then could I be straight?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 January 2012):
 Labels don't matter. It's who you fall in love with and end up in a relationship with/have sex with that matters, and whatever you end up doing, as long as it works it is all good. I mean what difference does it make? Maybe you are pan-sexual for all you know, loving people for who they are aside from genders.
Does it really matter? You define what you are, no one else. If you feel like having sex with a girl then do that, no need to call yourself a lesbian. And if you feel like having a relationship with a man then do that, no need to call yourself heterosexual. Just be what you are, labels aren't defining who you are, labels are there to describe you. But you do a much better job at describing yourself aside from labels: "I like girls sexually, but don't know if Id want a relationship with one. I feel emotional attachment towards men". Just go with that and see where it takes you.
I really think you need to get into a relationship with either or though, before you can start to label yourself anything. At this stage you haven't figured it all out yet. Maybe you haven't been in love yet, or maybe you haven't had a proper sexual attraction yet. A fantasy is far different from the live action, and what you imagine to like or not like probably will not turn out that way in real life. You got to live these things out to know for sure, and you got to make sure you do them with the right person, no matter what gender they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your answer! It makes so much sense. There`s so much going on right now and I`m really confused. My past relationships (or lack thereof) confuse me too. I recently developed a crush on a woman, but I feel like my affection could only ever be exclusive to her. She`s amazing. If you knew her, you`d love her too. This really is kind of a long story. =/
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2012): I agree with thecityoflight you might be bi-curious !
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI made an error, I search PlayBOY online! I tried the whole PlayGirl Magazine thing. I wasnt turned on. I thought some guys were cute, but would much rather have the girls on PlayBoy. I`m drawn to women sexually but I only see myself in love with a guy.
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