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writes:I am 29 years old and married since two years. Also I am 6 months pregnant with our first kid. My husband Ill treats me. He used to do so before my pregnancy and many a times I had thought of leaving him. But now after I got pregnant he had become slightly better. Of late he has started picking upon me again for small things. He fights with me very often and also makes me cry a lot. We have not had any relation since the time I got pregnant as well. I have done a lot for him that's what I feel. But now it's getting difficult spending even a day more thinking and dreading what he might say now and on what he might get angry. More than anything I am scared of him. I am not financially dependant on him as I have a profession and I work. But belonging to a conservative religious family and a kid coming along I don't think leaving him will be the correct thing to do. There is no point talking to him as well as that makes him more angry and he points out my mistakes all over again.Please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, fik  +, writes (21 February 2016):
Its so sad to hear that he still treats you like that even when you carrying his baby.My advice to you is to meet a cousellor both of you for the safety of both of you
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2016): Dear Nora
Thank you for the reply. Yes I have thought of meeting the counsellor but my husband would not go to one as he doesn't see his anger as a problem. He believes that it's his veto power to talk to me like this. That's how he has been bought up.
Still I will try to be stronger and talk to him about it.
Thanks a lot.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (21 February 2016):
No man or woman has the right to ill treat the other,and it is very sad to hear that you are scared of him.With respect to your family and their views.REMEMBER YOUR FIRST duty is the safety of your unborn baby and yourself.and its good to hear that you dont have to depend on him on a money level.Would you consider talking to a counsellor on this matter.Perhaps do you think he might also consider going to get some help with his anger issues.Dont leave it to late to get some help.NORA B.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 February 2016): My experience is that he will not change. If he's not respectful and nice to you now, he may never be. The only two ways he'll change is either he decides to make a life change or you threaten divorce but he needs to know you're going to follow through. If you're scrared of him, that may be a whole 'nother topic, like an escape plan to a safe house.
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