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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone!So me and this guy have been basically dating for a few months (he asked me out about a month ago). We basically have a continuously running text convo, and we respond when we can. It's been winter break though, and lately he's been taking significantly longer to respond to texts (3 hours generally). I realize this may not sound like a lot but compared to before, it is. We usually respond w/in 30 min-1 hour, unless something happens.Should I be worried or am I overreacting? And should I say anything to him about it? It's really been bugging me.Thanks so much.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (5 January 2014):
Do you think that people never change from the moment you meet them? He talked a lot when things were brand new. Now they're not. It happens to everyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2014): Hi, I'm the OP.
It's not that he takes 3 hours that concerns me, it's the drastic change (from regularly responding to suddenly taking significantly longer) which concerns me- does it signify a loss of interest?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2014): Yes, you are overreacting!
Oh I expect a lot of other people who get upset and use "phone-monitoring" to track their boyfriends and girlfriends on the hour; to say he's being inconsiderate and not showing that he cares. BULL!!!
Could it just be that he is busy and he shuts down his phone from time to time?
Could it be that he knows you're there, and doesn't expect you to be so concerned that he doesn't send an instant reply every time the mood hits you to text him?
What is it with this "text message anxiety-complex" people have???
You don't have to constantly remind a guy you exist, and you really shouldn't come off too needy by seeming so upset; unless he ignores very important messages.
I think people are far too imposing on each others time, by constantly expecting people to "check-in."
You have to show some level of independence; and the fact you also have a life. Fretting over texting is needy and insecure.
Shouldn't you be more concerned that you don't get to SEE HIM?!!!
What would you do if you lost your phone?
I you go into anxiety when he takes too long to respond to SOMETHING IMPORTANT, tell him so.
If you're asking him a question, and you need an answer within a reasonable time-frame; say so in the message.
If he doesn't respond to something really urgent, CALL HIM!!!
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