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writes: Sorry it's a bit looong..Well, I have already finished my last year of high school, there are only some exams to take, but I have a minor crush on a teacher (or not really a crush, I just like him). He's 20 years my senior, has a wife and two kids.I have a boyfriend of two years and I love him more than anything, I don't plan on leaving him.I don't really want anything from the teacher sexually, I don't want to ruin his marriage or anything. (well, I have dreamt with him once or twice, and fantasized about us kissing, though I don't think I would do it actually) I'm not a student in that school anymore, so that wouldn't be a problem anyways.He came to our school this year, and he said he's not really here for teaching (he teaches at other schools, too) but wants to make friends (he's funny, intelligent, and sometimes he goes out drinking with other students). I didn't really talk with him outside class, just once or twice.So, here's the problem:I'm going to see him one last time on a party, when all my classmates and teachers will be there.I don't know what to do. I want to be friends with him, I want to keep in contact. What should I do?Should I just go over his table and start a conversation? Or should I send him an e-mail saying that I want to keep in touch? (well not so straightforward :)Or have I already missed this boat?
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reader, apehkah  +, writes (30 May 2009):
I think it would be best to stick to email for now until you get over this "crush" and can move on to friendship. You said yourself you don't wish to jeopardize his marriage, and it sounds like you care about your own boyfriend. Don't forget though, that you can also put his reputation or his job at risk if it is deemed as innappropiate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2009): Hey..Having a crush or whatever on your teacher is pretty common..Even me and my friends were like that..Yeah,we have this new handsome teacher,he came to teach us for like two months only,and he just got out of Uni.Everyone including me liked him,so we asked for his email,facebook,myspace etc. And he gave us,asking why.We told him that we want to keep in touch with him..So,he let us..Kay?I wish u good luck..!
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (12 May 2009):
 Hey there
you haven't missed anything if you have his email. You can always email him and just ask how he's doing.
But just send him an email and say something like
" I'd like to keep in touch." Or something in your own words.
If you prefer visual, just go to him at the party while he's alone or something, talk for a bit and just mention that you'd like to stay in touch cause he's a good friend for you.
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