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writes:I need some help. My head is wrecked over this!! Apologies for the length.I'm a girl, and one of my best friends is a boy. I met him about two and a half years ago when he started working for the same company as me. We've always been close since we started working together, and since I had just moved to the city and didn't know anyone, he introduced me to his friends, which are now mine too. we finish eachother's sentences, work for the same company, talk everyday on the phone everyday aswell as seeing eachother almost every day, we hang around in a huge group of friends and we always arrive and leave together, because we live around the corner from eachother..Everyone always says that we would make a fantastic couple.. in the beginning of our friendship, that's what I was looking for, but I got over it and realised that we were better off as friends.. However, recently things have changed.. When normally, he's a perky soul a couple of months ago it really started to get to him that he couldn't get a girlfriend, his confidence when into the floor and he found it hard to cope.. I was there for him, but there was one night in his car, that looking back on now, I'm pretty sure he was seriously coming onto me. I knocked him back, but in the way where I let him know I loved him.. Plus I didn't want to be some sort of comfort blanket.Now, all the feelings I had for him in the beginning are starting to resurface.. I deeply love him, I know I always will, and I know it's never going to happen between us. The worst part now is that he has started seeing someone else, and Im stuck back where I started when we met!! How do I get over this, I want to start thinking of him as just a friend!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2009): It sounds like he likes you a lot but hasn't (until recently at his low point) considered you as a possible girlfriend. This is potentialy very difficult for you. I have been having a similar situation (with a girl) - I ended up admitting some of my strong feelings to her. She knocked me back but we're still good friends and at least I can move on knowing that she knows how I feel. This is of great comfort to me now. I would tell him how you feel, but you have to be very careful, don't scare him off!
Otherwise you just have to look after yourself - find new interests,some different friends etc , time will sort it all. Good luck.
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reader, megandarhlinn;x  +, writes (11 May 2009):
tell him you want to be with him, if he had feelings for you befoere he may still have those same feelings, apoligise for turning him down and tell him yu never knew how you fwelt about him until now good luck babes x
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