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writes:I have a major stressful problem. I have been with my bf for 7 years now and we decided a few months ago that in september we would try to have a baby, in the meantime I was unhappy with the relationship but was unsure what to do, anyway, I ended up having sex with someone else one night(I made sure we used a condom and this is the only time i have ever cheated) around the same time I was having unprotected sex with my boyfriend as I knew I was ovulating, around this time me and my bf had sex about 10 times. I realised the terrible mistake i made and decided that I should look at what I have got instead of what I havent got and vowed i would not do it again.I have now just found out I am pregnant, my bf will be so happy but I feel sick about it, I have considered an abortion.It is my own fault that this has happened to me and there is no excuse for my behavious but I really dont know what to do now? Help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): Unless you're just totally pro-life in general, have an abortion.
Whether it's really your BF's baby or not (it probably is), you're clearly not in a relationship that can withstand a baby. Nor should be trying to withstand a baby.
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reader, SereneGal476  +, writes (23 September 2008):
 So, you really truly think that because you "only cheated once", it makes it not as bad? I am not trying to bring you down any further, but hello. Judging from the decisions you've already made, I don't think you're in any position to bring a child into the world. But, since you're pregnant, you don't know for sure if the baby is your boyfriend's or the other guy's. It isn't my place to tell you to have an abortion or carry the pregnancy to term, but I do admire the fact that you are taking your boyfriend's feelings into consideration. Though you made a mistake, you don't necessarily have to look at it as a negative. And, if your boyfriend is really in it for the long hall, he won't care whose child it is because the child still belongs to you and can potentially belong to him too. I say you tell your boyfriend the truth NOW and see where things should go. Prayer helps things quite a bit, too.
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