A
female
age
41-50,
*enadukce
writes:I was in an abusive rationship of almost 12 years. I dont have the best relationship with my mother or my family. My brother commited suicide a few months before my husband left me for another woman. Since then I struggled with an evil ex-husband who made my life impossible for almost two years while the procces of the divorce. I since then have lost my house and at the present time living with my two kids at a friends house because my ex and the divorce ruined my credit and I am not able to rent an apartment because of the house forcloused. I have a job that pays the bills and a lot of stress. I met a guy who I have becoe really close to and found out in the 8 months of kning him that he is an alcoholic. This relationship is a roller coaster because of his addiction and his lack of commitment. I love this guy and he sometimes leads me to believe he does too but sometimes he just wants us to be friends. The divorce is final now and my ex moved to another State this past weekend. I dont have feelings fo rmy ex husband. On the other hand it is a releif he has moved away. I have started a new life and have a lot of decitions to make and for some reason I feel very lonely and desperate. I feel like I need to run away some where and start over. I dont know what to do to feel at ease. Why do I feel this way and how do I know I will make the right decision for me and my kids?
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (23 September 2008):
 Do you know, that on reading this I felt really proud of you, and I dont even know you.
Look at what you have been through, and yet you are still OK.
You are down! well who wouldnt be if they had been treated as badly as you have. You dont sound weak to me, you sound strong, and still want to make the right decisions.
The advice I would give to you, is to forget the Guy you are with. Unless he sorts out his adiction, he is not worth your efforts. The worst thing for you to put yourself and your children through would be more heartache from a man.
Get yourself straight before you even go looking for a relationship, you will find you will be a lot more choosey. Try to think to yourself "I have had all the crap I am taking, now it's me time and I wont settle for anyone thats below my standards and needs"
Honestly being strong works, you will be amazed at how powerfull you really are.
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