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writes:knew her for 2 weeks for now and i love her and she loves me towe had a date and we should have the other date monday where she invited me but i don't feel the same wayshe is the girl that i wanted for a long time but now at first i loved her but im losing that interestshe has a bf for now and hates him but stays with him because of compassionshe is a great girl and because of that lots of guys want to be with her and im kinda lucky to be in that spot .. from the all of the boys she has feeling for me but she is like playing that game of choosing between em i always was like im not that lucky to be with you as a joke but she always told me don't be so sure about thati love her more than i could love someone and she showed me the same but not directly but still..then after all she told me that she will work something that every one can be happy but i don't believe in that myselfshe acted pretty strange in the 1 date.. dunno what that should mean..i told her that if there is so much fight for 1 girl i don't wanna be there but she told me not to quitshe is like showing that loves me and yet loves his bfif she wouldn't be interested in me she wouldn't ask me out for the 2 date i would be going for the 2 date even if i don't really want toi just just don't understand this anymore.. what this all mean? and what should i do? letting her go is not really a option Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 So let me get this straight because your post was incredibly difficult to read.
You went on one (1) date with a girl who is in a relationship. She says she's not happy but doesn't leave him either, so therefore she is cheating on her boyfriend with you and possibly others. You say you've known her for quite some time and feel like you love her, even though you don't know her in a romantic light because you've only been on one date and have scheduled another. You think she loves you back because she told you she didn't want you to give up. You want to know what you should do, but don't want to hear anything about stepping away because that's an answer you don't like.
Did I get this right? I think I did. You also know what you should do, it's what you told us isn't an option. So, I'm not going to validate you. Why would I?
Here's what I think of her: She's a selfish coward who doesn't have the courage to do the right thing and break it off with her boyfriend so instead she cheats on him with you and possibly others. She's being tremendously cruel to her boyfriend. Regardless of if he "deserves" it or not, that's not your decision to make.
Here's what I think of you: You're misguided in your love. You are facilitating a cheater and because it's someone you've wanted to be with for a long time you're willing to accept logic you know is flawed because it's what you want. This makes you just as selfish as her. Selfish and misguided.
Here's what I think of your situation: Do whatever the hell you want to because you're not going to listen to us when we tell you she's bad news. You just want us to say you should keep trying for her and not to give up on love. Newsflash! This isn't love. It's lust at best. Lust on her end, and lust mixed with a crush on yours. Keep helping her cheat on her BF. See where that gets you two. She cheated on him, she'll cheat on you too. But hey, what do I know? I'm just some internet know it all dirtbag. Oh wait, dirtball...
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