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writes:Well im 14 n have been with my bf for a yr n few months..He says he loves me alot n wants to marry me etc..N now his just changing =(... Hez alwez sayin tht am wrong n will always say am ryt..we have alot off arguments now.. and he goez to me that he most off the time thinks that why is he even with me..And his matez are alwez tellin him that if i wuz there girl thy wud have left me time back.I dont want to live =(..What should i do? =(... im always crying myself to sleep... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 September 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHNK YOUUU AWLL
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): Hi babes,
At 14 you are so very young to be trying to plan what you want to do for the rest of your life. You ain't gonna die until your 80-100years, that is a long way away. Your still growing and changing, you are not the same as you was 4 years ago. Your boyfriend too (is he the same way as you) he is growing and changing, he is too young to promise to commit his life to you.
What you are going through is normal, this is what happens in relationships, this is why sometimes marriages don't work out. You may care about each other, you may love one another, but you may just be different people and no matter how you try, you just can't get along.
Don't sweat the small things babes, learn to give in sometimes, only the big things matter, and for those things you have every right to fight.
Now I don't know what the arguments are about, you think your right, he thinks your wrong. What do you argue about, is it something important. Is it enough to make you both upset? Or do you argue about stupid things, are these little things that start small and then flare up into something big. Sometimes it's not worth arguing about the little things, if we all did that we couldn't get on with anybody at all. Some people have the need to always be right, to win every argument and win every fight. Is this the way you are, dose this sound like him. Are your arguments really that important that you fight and go to sleep crying every night?
In relationships we have to compromise, we sometimes have to back down. Listen to him about what's bothering him, ask him to be honest about what he dislikes about you. Don't be insulted, maybe it's just a small thing you need to work on. He should do the same, he should listen to you and take on board these things that are bothering you and making you cry. Most people have these problems in relationships, and we can either change ourselves, or leave and find somebody that suits us better. If you two can't learn to get along without fighting, then you will have to break up, because this relationship seems too difficult and it's making you both upset.
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