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writes:Arghhh I'm so confused, so let me explain my problem to you then. well ....My ex boyfriend still likes me and wants me back, and I was considering it, But now there's this other lad that likes me. But the thing is I don't know what to do because, I think I am still in love with my ex boyfriend, but if I got back with my ex byfriend, our relationship would have to be secret, because of so many complicated stories, but if I got with this other lad the relationship would not have to be secret. The thing is I don't know whether to get back with my ex or not because, secret relationships never work out as I would know, because when I was with him before it was secret and that lasted just over 2 months then he ended it by saying he didn't feel we were going anywere, I was so heartbroken, I cried nearly all day, my ex keeps asking for me back but I keep saying no because he hurt me so much and I'm so scared he will hurt me again. But I don't know whether to give this other guy a go because I'm confused whether I still love my ex, I mean I love talking to my ex, I love being around him, I miss him when he's not there and I get lonely when I don't speak to him, he makes me smile for no reason like I smile just looking at him, he makes me laugh so much and we have loads in comon but also he doesn't really make an effort to come to speak with me, and this other guy is always around me hugging me and stuff, I just dont know. I mean what should I do, give this new guy a go or get back with my ex ???? How do I decide what's best for me ????
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): id stay with the new guy but that's just me...your ex didnt give you much attention when you were together and he was the one that ended it..i mean...2 months is not that long so I dunno how much you really like him...but my guess is...after a month or so of getting with your ex...you'll break up again...nothing has changed...what made him realize that NOW he wants you? NOW you can go somewhere? Maybe you should talk to him
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reader, smiles12 +, writes (17 November 2008):
My advice would be not to get with either of them. Thing is, your relationship with your ex doesn't sound like a healthy one, you've already been hurt once by him so why go back for seconds? I think you need to spend some time alone and really think about what it is you want from a relationship. I think if you were to get back with your ex it would be a big mistake and if you were to get with the new guy you'd be constantly comparing him to your ex, this would not be a good situation!Take some time out for yourself and you'll start to see things more clearly!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2008): Just have a total break. You don't have to be in a couple all the time. You shouldn't get with someone just for the sake of it, nor should you be with someone you love if it's going to hurt. Spend some time with this new guy, and others, and see who you develop feelings for before you make any kind of advance =]
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