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*akebank
writes:Ok well it starts off me being with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years. During this time we had to attend different schools. I found out that one night when she was drunk she messed around with another guy. After a period apart we got back together. Things had gone along well for a while until just recently. She is now living at home again and I'm at school about 2 hours away. Well she is hanging out with a girl who is known to be a little bit on the slutty side. Im fine with it but I havent got to see her for a while except for a few weekends here and there. Well now she is having these fits where she wont answer when I call. Its only when she is hanging out with this girl. I think that she is hanging out with other guys too because of this girl. Normally id be just fine with this but given the history I get worried and nervous. I want to trust but on the other hand I am an emotional mess and I cant take it when she wont answer or talk to me. I havent done anything that would upset her so she has no reason to just blow me off. I am still very much in love with her. I guess my question is what should I do? Act like I dont care? Break up with her? Weve talked about it and she keeps saying shes sorry and she gets upset that she is doing this to me. But this is all when im home. She is great when Im home but when im at school things are so hard for me. Any help please.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (10 April 2007):
 Hello jakebank
Sometimes distant relationship can be a little hard and when you decide to make it work all of you must be willing to try. I don’t know what her problems are and we cant really say her friend’s behaviour has some kind on influence on her unless we are sure and even if it does you cant choose friends for her and she will definitely tells you that. I think u need to have a heart to heart with her because you cant keep going around in circles with her without coming into a compromise with her, you need to meet each other halfway for this relationship to work. Maybe she feels she wants to do other things when you are not around and only devote herself to you only when you are around but still this is what she need to say when you guys talk about whatever is troubling you in this relationship because acting like u don’t care will only make matters worse and that is not what you need. Open a communication platform when you are back where she can tell u if she want to continue or not if she wants to continue put some ground rules that will work for both of you if she breaks them maybe it will be time to call it a day.
Jovial
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reader, pfairypepper +, writes (10 April 2007):
Once a cheater always a cheater. Sounds like she is playing with you, and I suggest you find someone more mature. I think she keeps saying sorry is because she likes knowing she has someone to fall back on. I'm not saying she is cheating on you, but I think that there is a good chance that she will do it again and you deserve better.
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