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writes:Dear Cupid, I am in the army where i met this beautiful girl who was dating a guy back home and we instantly became friends..she was having troubles and i stepped in and well one thing lead to another and we started dating! We moved very fast but the feelings were there..I loved her and she loved me...now we knew after traing was over we would have to start a long distance relationship but we were both ready for it! I took her virginity and there was so many feelings involved! Well we made the relationship work for two months 1000 miles apart but two weeks after she came to visit me she broke up with me! Her reasons were because she was getting to consumed with the relationship. While she was here it was still perfect no differance...now its over what should i do? I have talked to her a few times since the break up and its hard...but we were good friends i still have feelings for her and i think she still has them for me...she is only 19 and im 22 we wanted the same things out of life until 6 month anniversary then she just broke it off. how can i get her back?
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (12 April 2007):
 yes let her go. its never easy to let someone you truly love go but at the same time its painful and a waist of time to hold on to someone who doesnt want you so choose what makes you happy.
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reader, KingofAZ +, writes (11 April 2007):
KingofAZ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell i talked to her and i told her i still love her...she said she wont tell me how she feels...says it wil only make things harder on her...she also said she never wanted to break up with me! I find myself still searching for the reason why and when asked she got mad at me stating we have already had this conversation..which is true but the conversatiion always gives me the same dead end answer...should i just let go of her? How do you let go of someone you love so much? Why can i not stop thinking about her? I have tried talking to other girls and i just dont have the feelings there...no one can compare to her! How can i move on when i still have these feelings for her?
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reader, Jovial +, writes (11 April 2007):
hi
the only way to find out is through communication. you love her and you would like to know if after she had her space there will be a future for the two of you as simple as that. if u dont communicate this things how are you going to wait for someone not knowing whats on her mind? she knows how she feels and what she wants and to give yourself a peace of mind get all those answers not caring what she will think of you because i dont think currently she is thinking about how you feel all she wants is to free herself and what about you? judge for yourself
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reader, KingofAZ +, writes (10 April 2007):
KingofAZ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell how exactly can I find out if there is hope...I am scared to ask because she wants her space! I dont want to start asking questions because then she will get tired of the same ole stuff again! Is it possible to be friends with some you still have feelings for? How can i keep her close to me without losing the friendship? I want to keep her reminded of the good times without sounding like i am trying to get her back!
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reader, Jovial +, writes (10 April 2007):
Hi
This woman seems to have a lot of issues to sort out. Don’t rush her give her some time off tell her how you feel and how you want things to work ask her what can you do to make her change her mind about you maybe she will be honest with you and tell you whats going on maybe she is back with her ex who knows? remember when you started she was unhappy in another relationship and you were there and it felt right to get into a relationship with you which means it might have been too soon for her under the circumstances but she needed a shoulder to cry and you were available maybe now because you are apart reality finally hit her and she knew she made a wrong decision.
Ask her what she meant by “consumed” because if it means what I think it means I think she need some space she couldn’t think when she was with you and now that you are apart she got sometime to think and you need to go. I am sorry but you have to find a way to live without her because she didn’t give you any hope of ever getting back together again.
Jovial
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