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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes: My ex was cheating on me, when I busted him and his mistress. He lied to both of us, and I told him to leave. She ended up marrying him 6 months later. The problem is I was 6 weeks pregnant (and yes he knew), now I have an 18 month old. He is taking care of her child (not biologically his), but with us he hasn't given a red cent. He is a deadbeat daddy and I don't know what to do? Do I have to give him custody for him to pay child support. I think it’s wrong that he gets to live happily ever after. He even went and blocked me on facebook. I'm a tornado of emotions! I want him to pay, to hurt, to be supportive, to do the right thing....to not pretend he is a guy that is better than us.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 February 2011):
I would contact a lawyer. YES you should get child support. And yes, most likely he would get visitation rights, but not custody. Or you can ask him to sign over his parental rights and he would have absolutely NO rights when it comes to the child. Personally.... I would seek child support and go from there. He most likely don't really want visitation right, but honestly, I think he should help you out financially.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2011): Take him to court. He doesn't have to have custody for you to receive money.Raising children is hard and you need all the help you can get. If he doesn't want to be in the child's life don't worry about it. Maybe he will come to his senses sooner and later. But he is the one missing out. Stop worrying about him and focus on you and your child.You can't change people, they have to want to change.
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