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writes:I wonder what should I do about a long term admirer . He sent me a letter saying " I will always be watching you, remember don't forget the happy ending ..." . I was in a relationship at the time and so was he .Neither of us were unfaithful . Since the letter he still watches me, and has started sitting in the same cafe or restaurants as me .. but he doesn't approach me . We both haven't talked about our feelings since his letter ...there is a strong attraction and neither of us want to hurt anyone. The scenario feels unfinished ...should we talk about our feelings for some sort of closure? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (5 May 2008):
 You did say that you were single, but is he single now as well? If he isn't, it's a little odd and creepy his following you, don't you think? And if he is single, how come he's not making a move? The whole stalker kind of behavior is kind of a red flag for me... Wouldn't most guys be aware that they might scare a potential mate by sending a letter that states "I will always be watching you..."? Sorry, just and observation. If it has ever unnerved you or set off your women's intuition, then listen to your own common sense. If you haven't had this reaction and he truly is an okay guy, just disregard this advice. After all, we are only offering opinions based on a brief note, we haven't experienced him or his behavior. Good Luck Hun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): I think if you both like each other enough you should do something about it.. it would start to annoy me i think, i would like either make a move or don't?
Maybe its just me.. I can't understand what he is doing with a girlfreind if his feelings for you are so strong.. maybe he likes the security of a girlfriend but enjoys the 'chase' with you?? I think he should split up with his girlfreind and take a few weeks out, maybe keep your relationship under wraps so you don't hurt anyone. But people move on and his girlfriend will have to get used to the idea at some point, just don't rubd her nose in it.
The more it carries on i would be inclined to think it is a game to him.. he just enjoys the forbidden love kinda feel.
Whereas must girls like a guy with a bit of backbone who will just ask them out??
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