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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear All,Plz plz help me with my situation. I am so used with life abroad that i don't want to go back to my native country specially to the husband who was cold to my feelings and hard life abroad. So i got friendly with a boy younger to me and recently he called off his engagment and wants us to stay together.Unfortunately/fortuantly i have not discolsed my true marital status and my grown up kid to him. I am very much attached to my daughter and her future bugs me a lot, but what about my life my feelings my desire..... do i have to give up all !I am not able to decide for i see my life ahead suffocating with my husband and also his over demanding family. I always wanted to run away and finally the job abroad has helped to relax a lot and my boyfriend is a great company and think i always wished a husband like him, again our religion differs - country differs - age gap still am not in the situation to depart from him. Right now am so strong headed but the consequence will be too much to take divorce, daughter, my mom, who is dependent on me.What should a lady in my situation should do? Sacrifice the love of my lifetime for the husband with whom i can't relate, who is dominating and cruel at times to my feelings, gives me thorn when am in bed with him.Shall i just go on like this divided and torn or collect courage to face the truth and speak the truth to both... will i be accepted....
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (21 October 2010):
 You have to be honest with all. You simply cannot remain with an unloving husband. If you love this other boy, you should be with him. It will be difficult and undoubtedly divorce will be a burden but in the long run, everyone will be much happier and you will be happier knowing that you are with someone who loves you.
Others will just have to learn to accept because they cannot force you to make choices, you are free to choose. The job will no doubt help you with this dilemma and perhaps your new boyfriend will help as well.
I hope that helps.
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