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female
age
30-35,
*isarani
writes:So I've been dating this guy for few months now, we're both serious on getting married however my family are not keen due to the guys reputation regarding him being a player and being divorced before as well as being a control freak, the thing is has never fine any of these things to me, but my family fail to understand that or give him a chance. What shall I do? Is my family right or just being narrow minded?I've been with this guy for few months now, recently he will ring speak for ten mins nd won't bother until the following day am I reading too much into this or is there more that meets the eye? Even when we meet up it's rare right now he says he busy at work but I'm not sure help!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 December 2015):
 Your parents might have started disliking this guy just based on prejudice and hearsay... but never discount a good parent's gut feelings and intuition, in this case, their intuition apparently it served them well and their fears have been amply confirmed by your bf's behaviour. The proof is in the pudding : how can he be " very serious about marriage ", if after just few months he can't bother giving you attention and you have to chase after him to be able to see him ??
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (14 December 2015):
You should be with someone for more than just a "few months" before even considering marriage to that person. You family's disapproval of this guy is another red flag. The third and final red flag is that he is losing interest. There is a lot of wishful thinking on your part. Sorry, this guy is, as you say, a player. He has tired of you and is ready to move on to the next thing that interests him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2015): You're fascinated and infatuated with a bad-boy. Placing your family on high alert.
Your family sees the guy for who he is. You are playing with fire. Like many who mess around with bad-boys, you'll get burnt! Foolishly believing you can tame the beast.
He hasn't bitten you yet, but he will. He's starting to show symptoms of a player, and he's getting restless. Players are called players for a reason. They hide their true nature, make you feel good to be around them, and have the savvy to create a false-sense of confidence that you're special, and he's changed all because of you.
Less than smart girls have to get hurt before they learn. Smart girls use their common-sense and listen to advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2015): What a blessing to be aware of all this information before you commit your life to him, some partners don't find out they have married a loser until it's too late. Take notice and don't rush into anything until you are sure for your self.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (13 December 2015):
 Your family is right and he's losing interest.
Men like him are not worth the trouble. Please listen to your family.
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