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writes:Hi,Please help.About 8 years ago I left my job in a call centre because of my manager. She took an instant dislike to me and made my job miserable that I started getting panic attacks. I left there and started another job in another call centre which is now my current job.The reason im worried now is because my current manager is leaving and I'm sure I heard my old managers name come up as an interviewee (she has a distinct name)... If she does get the job I will have to leave as I won't be able to tolerate her behaviour towards me. I have a mortgage to pay and a wedding also so this has come at a really bad time....In my old job I stupidly never complained about her and wasn't given a leavers interview so there's no proof she made my life hell. So what are my options if she does get the job? She's very manipulative so I know if I speak to anyone about her she will make out I was in the wrong.Nobody in my workplace will confirm if it was her who came to the interview or if she was successful- I have no way of finding out.I feel so sick and am not sleeping. Has anyone been in this situation- having to work with an ex colleague/ manager they don't get on with?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2013): I agree, tell the people in charge, that you left that job because you couldn't work with her. If they value you, they will either not hire her, or make sure things work out once she starts. If they don't care what you have to say, it doesn't matter... you have nothing to loose if you would leave anyway. They may appreciate your input. As an employer I would.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (20 October 2013):
 first and foremost, there's no sense in stressing and making yourself sick over something that you're unsure of. for all you know, she may not even get the job. so don't stress over the details of what you're going to do until you know for sure it's going to happen.
that said, once you do find out she is your new manager (hopefully this won't even happen), you then start to worry about what you're going to do. but first, a few thoughts. you said you left your old job 8 years ago. does this mean you have been working for the company you are at now for that span of time? if you have, certainly others have gotten a view of your work ethic and character. so if something does happen, and you have to go to human resources, you can have others vouche that you worked there with no issues for 8 years until she came. second, i see your age bracket. it means that when you worked with her, you were in your very early twenties, if not teens. people do a lot of changing and maturing during those years. do you think it's possible that maybe now she will like you and treat you better now that you've aged some? not blaming you for her issues with you, just a thought. she may have also changed in those 8 years. i don't know about you, but i'm constantly changing. i'm not at all the same person i was 8 years ago. so don't assume she is still the same big bitch she once was.
IF she does become your boss AND she is still a huge bitch, AND you can't tolerate her or find a way to ignore it, then once again, you have the option of changing jobs. not ideal, of course.
take it one day at a time. hopefully she won't even become your boss and this will all go away. good luck.
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reader, Keeley345 +, writes (20 October 2013):
I feel for you. Most of us have had bad experiences with people we work with and it's a traumatic thing having to deal with bullying and harrassment. Before getting worked up about your old manager possibly joing the call centre where you are now, wait until it has been confirmed. She might not even get the job. If she was nasty to you I'm sure she was to other people too. So it's likely alot of complaints were made against her. So her previous employer may give her a bad reference for that. I hope they do. It's possible she may change her ways however I appreciate your concerns and unease. I would feel the same as you. Bottom line, don't let someone push you out of a job. You have a right to work freely and peacefully without harrassment and intimidation. If she does start her nonsense again, don't stand for it. Complain until you get a result. Even go to an outside organisation for support. You should be treated with dignity and respect and don't allow her or anyone else to push you around or make you unhappy. It's time to take back control and show her the stronger, won't take crap, side of you. Everyday, we come across people who treat us badly but you have to stand up to them especially at work. What advice would you give a child who was being bullied at school?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 October 2013):
 I agree with Caring Guy.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (19 October 2013):
I agree, go to the person who has a say in who gets hired and tell them that you used to work for her and she is a very difficult person to work for and that you don't think hiring her would be in the best interest of the company.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 October 2013):
I would strongly suggest that you go to your current boss, or someone above, and make your feelings known. Hopefully they will listen. Don't sit there and suffer in silence.
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