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writes:leaving my wife of 10 years 2 kids for a woman who was my wifes good friend of 5 years She(the other woman) is still married but seperated, left her resent boyfriendof 2 yrs for me and we plan to get an apartment next week, we started the affair a month ago and just recently had sex alot. what are my chances of succsess with one. I am in love with her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): i am actally shaking my head and laughing. hurts my stomach so much. read your post agin and see the funny side. i just did.
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (28 December 2009):
 Not only do you need to ask yourself what kind of person you've gotten involved with, you need to ask yourself what kind of person you've become. She has already proven herself to be unfaithful, a liar, and a snake-in-the-grass; you, too, have become these things.
You are about to throw away your marriage and your children for a woman you have only been seeing for a month--a woman who is still married and had a boyfriend until recently, by the way. Clearly, she unable to be with any man in a committed relationship. You're asking us about your chances for success because deep down, you know this can't work. It's just a matter of time before she figures out that you snore or fart in your sleep and you will see how much of a bitch she can be when she's PMSing. Reality is going to hit you HARD once you realize you are living in a fantasy, but it will be too late by that point because your family will have already been destroyed.
PS: You're not in love with her, you are in love with the sex and the danger of this affair.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): your illicit affair with this so called friend is unlikely to survive, as once you have left your wife and children you will soon come to realise what a mistake you have made and how much you miss your loyal and trusting partner of 10 years, not to mention your children!! sounds to me like your marriage has just become a bit stale, and i urge you to go to couple counselling with your wife and try to work things out, rather than give up your family for a relationship based on lust and mistrust, as how on earth are you and this other woman going to be able to trust each other after both of you cheating on your partners??? think about this sensibly before you do anything, because my theory is it will never work!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): She was a "friend" of your wife for five years? I don't think so, friends don't do that sort of thing. You need to ask yourself what sort of person you've gotten yourself involved with. I'd guess that within a few weeks, (days maybe?), of moving in together at least one of you will regret it.
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reader, Honest Answer +, writes (27 December 2009):
 If you were in love with her, you wouldn't be asking for validation from a bunch of strangers. I think you are making a terrible mistake. First of all, you relationship started in deceit. What makes you so certain that she won't drop you the next time something better rolls along? Second, you have only been dating (having sex as you put it) for a month. Are you really seriously going to forgo a 10 year marriage and 2 kids on a whim?
I think you know what the right thing to do is. Atleast end in with your wife before you begin playing house with this other women.
Good Luck!
Jeff
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 December 2009):
The problem is you're doing all this very quickly. You've been having an affair for a month, and have had sex. But do you really know her? Do you know what she's like to live with. I'm not saying it won't work, but I am saying I think you need to think about this very carefully. Don't jump from a marriage into something that may look better. Remember the saying. The grass may look greener on the other side, but it seldom is.
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