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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now and she recently told me that she's feels that she's falling in love. This would usually be a positive thing in a relationship but I have been here before. All of my past girlfriends gave me the same talk at one point on how they feel so deeply and love me so much. After I broke up with these girls, their lives consistently went down the toilet. I feel like I am being pushed away from her now that she told me this. I don't want to progress things anymore because I know this is not a relationship that is going to last forever. What options do I have without feeling like I'm ripping her heart out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): You have to break up with her as soon as possible.If you stay with her any longer because you feel you just can't do
it,you'll be leading her on and letting her feelings grow stronger for you.I know,it will be hard,but you need to do
this for the both of you.You'll be doing her and yourself
a favor.You don't have to attack her(with a brutal message)
,just sit her down and start a conservation.Build up to it.
Or you can go ahead and say it.But say something like,"(her
name),you are very important to me,and you have made my life very special these past 6 months.I love you so much,
but I have to say that I'm not in love with you.I love you,
but I don't think this relationship could get any closer.I
have enough respect for you to tell you this and not lead
you on any longer.I'm so sorry,I truly am.But I am doing us
both a favor that you may not understand right now,but you
will be glad it has be done later on in life.Once again,I'm
truly sorry."Something along the lines of that saying.And be there to comfort her.Most likely to be an emotional breakdown for a few minutes after she hears it.Sorry to hear about this.Give us an update as soon as you can.wish you the best.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2008): Oh sweetie...I am so sorry that you are going through this. You are a truly a gentelman for asking this question, and I know you will do the right thing in the end. My best, and only advice is to break things off as soon as possible, that way, your girlfriend won't have time to attach herself to you more. Just be honest, she will be heartbroken, but she WILL move on. It is what is fair for herself, and you Sweet Pea. Let us know how it goes!
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (9 August 2008):
 Why is it going down the toilet? What has happened in your past that mkes you unabe to commit?
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