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anonymous
writes:HiI consider myself to be a caring and sincere person. Being a counsellor was always a dream. I have a good sense of humour I think, a couple of kids, a home, a job, a car, animals. I like being on my own for now. My kids are early teens and I think are well balanced. See their dad regularly. He is settled living with someone they get on with. She is nice.What I dont get is, I am not a very 'popular' person. I dont find it easy to 'creep' round people. As in suck up to them. I dont hand it to blokes on a plate either because I dont want to basically. I have no need to impress them as I like being single and dont have any desires for casual sex.But people dont seem to 'warm' to me. How comes others have a multitude of friends? And i'm not even talking about on line. Ive got about 30 people on face book, others have hundreds. I can post Happy xmas on my status and get no comments, someone else can post it and get loads.I consider myself to be nice to people, but only seem to have guys that pretend to be friends until they know i'm not going to put out, then I dont hear from them again. And thats in the real world by the way, in the pub I drink in, not online. Although banter on a forum online tonight, and getting slated because he didn't get my humour, and him commenting that females think they are funny and they're not, is what prompted me to ask this question. It seems fairly typical.Can anyone shed some light? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks folks. Do you think its possible though that a certain type of personality just wont be liked very often? I know I take after my dad, and he has few friends because he doesn't kiss ass so to speak. He can be a little deep, but I think i'm lucky in that I didn't inherit that. I can be compasionate with people where prehaps my dad cant.
I am happy. Just wonder why some women, older than me even, can go in the pub, everyone likes her, and she doesn't put out either. I did ask one of the guys in there why she is so popular and why she stays popular even though she doesn't sleep with them all, and he said because guys know she wont as she's a lebsbian. Maybe thats what I need to pretend to be! lol
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reader, ...:love:...  +, writes (26 December 2008):
Heyy, im a younger person...younger then your children, but im pretty sure i can help
You should invite your co-worker for a drink or something and celebrate with a party that you organize. Im popular at my school because i plan every get together...and believe this, i also planned a birthday party for my friend at her house. i know you have kids and all but they're old enough go out a little and have FUN!!!!!!!
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 Most "Good" people are alone.. !!
I'd say "5" Good Friends are better than a 100 average ones..!!
Being popular is actually a misconception .. ! Nobody is popular unless you are a Film Actor or a Politician or a celeb. There are Girls who are popular because they are Easy SEX.. Then there are girls who are Popular bcoz they r Intelligent. !! Nerds, we call them.. !!
What you have to decide is "Amongst whom do u wanna be popular?"
At your age, you wont go to School, or a class.. Hence, you wont have as many contacts as a school kid would have..
It's not about being Popular, it about being Nice and content.. !! If you are Satisfied, you are better than Brittany Spears..!! Shez popular for many reasons, do u want to be as popular..?
G'day
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reader, agtorange  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 You don't seem to be doing too bad. As far as the facebook thing goes, I have a few hundred people on my facebook, doesn't mean I'm friends with all of them, I don't even know some of the people on ym facebook. So I wouldn't worry about that.
And as far as the guys at the pub shutting you down as soon as they realize they can't get in your pants, the reason for that is that basically, most guys who goto the pub and approach women and start chatting arn't looking to make a friend.
I also wouldn't worry about some guy on a forum, the odds are if he's insulting women on a message board or something somewheres you're alot more popular and mature than he is.
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