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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Men help me out here, I don't know why I find the girl i'm seeing sexier after she told me she was still a virgin! It's strange that she's now a lot more attractive to me than before, sure before I liked her a lot and found her so beautiful, but now I find I like her more. She has this sex appeal to me which I didn't notice as much and now i want her more than i already did!I never would have guessed she was a virgin, I mean the way she bites her lip before she kisses me and gently strokes my chest sends me crazy. Or in fact how she kisses and uses her hands, I was sure she'd slept with a few guys. It just seemed like she knew what she was doing all this time and that she had experience. So you can imagine my surprise when she told me she was, but I was happy it showed me she wasn't the type to get around with guys like most girls around here. She's a late bloomer being 20 and still not had sex, but fair play to her for being able to stay a virgin so long!My question is, why is it I like that she's not slept with anyone yet? And what is it that makes her seem more sexier and attractive to me than before? My friends said i'm weird because if they found out the girl they're with who's 20 is still a virgin they'd be put off her and most guys wouldn't find that attractive... so why is it i do? Has anybody ever experienced this with another girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): "My question is, why is it I like that she's not slept with anyone yet? And what is it that makes her seem more sexier and attractive to me than before?"
Could be a manifestation of what shrinks call the "Whore-Madonna Complex", where guys view women as either sluts or saints. A virgin is much sexier and more desirable than a
scarlet woman who has sex with anyone who asks or offers.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 October 2012):
 Virgins are sexy because your experience with her will be so fresh and she will appreciate everything you do and feel special. She will be more likely to be attached to you than girls who give themselves freely to guys. You also like that she is turned on by you. Without prior experience you feel that her affections to you are genuine. She waited that long to find the right guy to express all this to. Your friends are just jealous and are sour grape. They have this preconceived notions that virgins are rigid, boring while casual girls are wild and exciting. There is nothing unattractive about a virgin at 20 at all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012):
Your feelings are completely normal.
But our culture wishes it wasn't normal. So everyone is taught to believe that it isn't.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2012): Maybe it's the thrill of taking something from her.
Maybe it's taking the power from her, making her yours.
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