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writes:Hey guys. Thanks for ur answers because im in desperate need for advice.I had been talking to this girl for about a month and everything's was fine. We talked daily and went to see a movie a.couple weeks after seeing eachother, her friends were encouraging me to go for it ans saying she liked my personality, and tht she talks about me. I saw her bout a week ago and everything was normal. I rdxred her the next day and got no response (she usually always does) We had some choppy convos throughout the week but nothing like usual. I asked her to come over one day if she was free amd she completely blew me off saying she was busy ( but she never gave me an answer i had to hunt her down for one). Now she wnt respond to me at all. I tell her i need to talk to her for a few minutes, i ask if everything is ok and i get nothing . Now all of a sudden her friends are saying they always thought she saw me as a friend. I would ask her to b straight with me and tell me wats up but she wont answer at all. But she never struck me as the type to stold ignore me. What makes some girls act like this? And how do i get through to her. Thank u Reply to this Question
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reader, doublejack +, writes (24 August 2012):
Yeah, I'm sorry but I have heard all sorts of excuses, too. How difficult is it to pick up the phone and send a simple text? It would only have taken her 30 seconds.
She chose to ignore you for that time. She doesn't want you thinking that she hates you, which is why she did eventually send you a text. The point is, though, that she is not romantically interested. She's hoping that making up a lame excuse and taking days to respond is enough for you to decipher that. If she were interested, you would have been made a priority and she would have responded right away... even if it was a "hey, I am super busy right now but let's talk tonight" type of message.
I would move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank u guys for the great advice. She actually finally texted me and told me tht she was just stressed about college starting and tht she is sorry. Idk where that leaves us tho.
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (22 August 2012):
 It happened to me too some months ago, same story. What I did to get over her was to ignore her! After we haven't talk for a month I saw her one day accidently and she looked so happy to see me. I knew though that it was a fake interest so i politely ended quickly the conversation and moved on!
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reader, doublejack +, writes (22 August 2012):
Sometimes people blow hot and cold. Perhaps she was interested, but either she changed her mind or someone else has caught her eye. All we can do is speculate as to why this girl is no longer keen on you.There's a big jump from the time two people meet to the point both accept that they are in a relationship, and at any time during that process one of the two can flake out like this. It happens A LOT. Girls will give a guy their number, but then never answer his calls or texts. Other girls will chat with a guy but not actually go out with him, he just gets friend zoned. Sometimes you'll get a date and then nothing. Other times it can be several dates, and either she breaks contact, breaks it off, or puts you in the friend zone. Guys do the same things to girls, too. It is just how dating works.Best of luck!
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (22 August 2012):
 Both guys and girls behave like this, this isnt just girls! Basically if someone (male or female) changes their mind about the person they are seeing/dating i.e. they decide that they dont want to carry on dating that person, then they ignore them until they get the hint that they are not interested anymore.
Is it fair to do this? No. It is a very cowardly thing to do, but some people are cowards and cant break up with people in a sensible, mature fashion. Guys have done that to me, girls have done it to men - this is not just female behaviour.
How can you get through to her? You cant. She's probably thinking the same thing - when will it get through to you that she isnt interested anymore.
Write this off as a bad experience, and realise that you can do better than an immature little coward like her. There are some awful people in the world, and she is just one of them. Dont waste your time on her, there are plenty more girls out there who wouldnt treat you like this.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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