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writes:I just wanted to know what makes a woman marriage material...what do guys really look for when the want to marry a woman....would a guy marry a woman who was promiscuos in her past if she had changed???
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reader, fwfsdr  +, writes (29 November 2008):
i think what makes a woman marriage material is to have a man love you to a point were he cant live with out you. he wants you in his life for the rest of his life. and is not worried about other weman he only wants you. and to do that you both have to be faith fulhonest with each otherspend time with himso him some respectlove him the same way he loves you dont be afrid to take a chance
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): I think really it depends on the guy... If we are purely talking about a woman who was promiscuous, then it would have to be based on how the guy feels towards women like that.I found this post because of the tag "her past", so if that is any indication of what kind of guy I am, you should know that I would personally would have problems dealing with it.I am currently in a relationship with a women who I feel has led a rather promiscuous life. While my lifestyle prior to her could have been perceived as promiscuous by some, the lifestyle of my girlfriend's blows mine away. I wish so much that I didn't know all these haunting ghosts of her past, but now its too late and I can't seem to shake them.Im insecure, thats right. But even the most confident man would bat an eyelash over a woman's past if it overcame their "limit".
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): I might be willing to marry such a woman, given the proper circumstances, some of which being she has no STD and no children by another man.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 You commit to a person if you think that person is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
Discounting for the moment those who marry on a rush of hormones, the sensible thing to look for in a long-term partner is compatibilty. Opposites attact but only to a degree.
If one is a bit of a flirt, while the other is shy, that might work. But if the other is someone who flirts with everything with a pulse and the other thinks sex except for pro-creation is tempting the devil, that might not work.
Opposites attract as long as they are not to far apart. A democrat and republican might get a long. A communist and republican would not.
Often a woman is considered promiscious if she counts her lovers in double digits. If he doesn't, there might be conflict. But of course, the difference between 9 and 11 is smaller then between 2 and 99. Not just the amount between the two, but the person with 9 lovers is different from the one with 2.
You yourself of course have to decide what kind of man you want. Do you want a man who wants a chaste woman? Then that is what you got to be. It is obvious, if you wanted a man who wants blonds then it ain't hard to figure out what your hair color needs to be, so why is it a question when it comes to sex?
If you are a promiscious woman then you need to find a man that wants a woman like that. Don't we all want someone who loves us for who we are, not for who we pretend to be?
Some men will reject women who in their eyes have had to many lovers. Their choice, people are free to want what they want. You should, when you are ready, be looking for someone who wants you, all of you, not just the parts he likes. And that includes your 'past' whatever it may be, virgin or femme fatale.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2008): I would have to really believe she was no longer promiscuous before I would consider her. I would worry less about her past and more about our future. Could she commit to just being with me? Would she always feel attracted to me or would she spend her time thinking of other men and growing frustrated?
Of course I have a several more qualifications as to who I would consider marrying that have little to do with her sexual past. But it seemed you were asking about just this one area.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 September 2008):
Well that depends on upbringing and culture and the the guy.
Some men will want a perfect virgin with good bone structure and breeding who is willing to floof around the house with a duster and want nothing more than to pop out babies and give blow jobs and cook dinner.
Some men will want to be with a woman who knows what's she's doing in the bedroom and who can match him in life experience and wages and who will keep challenging him so he never gets bored. She'll never want him to NOT go out with his mates because she'll be out with hers.
The best bet for you is to think about what kind of man you want to marry - chances are he'll have similar ideas to you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (30 September 2008):
 one who aint pressing for it. if they're in a relationship with you chances are they don't care about your past.
btw you're way too young to get married.
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