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writes:What makes a relationship diffrent from a friendship? I'm twenty one and my boyfriend is eighteen. At first he would call me pet names say random sweet things and say he loves me randomly and he hasn't done that for the last couple of months (we've been together for ten and he says he stopped because he's stressed) and also the most we've done is kiss, he's a Virgin so I understand if he wants to wait that's fine but I can't even get him to tell me what turns him off/on or about things he would wanna try in the future. Without lovey dovey talk or sexual talk I'm starting to feel more like a friend but besides that things aren't bad we never argue or anything so I'm confused do relationships need that stuff? Thank you for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2017):
 Yes sweetie he may be telling you what you want to hear but no it is not normal for the affection to stop, it does sound like you are more friends than anything else.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (13 January 2017):
 Sometimes we get answers we need to hear, but aren't looking for.
I wish you the best with him, but you need more than he's likely to be able to give. Either way, you'll both learn something :)
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reader, Sweetlove95 +, writes (13 January 2017):
Sweetlove95 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers, but I wasn't asking if I should leave him. I was just wondering if that was normal because all my exs were extremely mushy so I was used to that. I brought it up to him again and he assured me that he loves me and wants me and will work on showing it more.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (13 January 2017):
Denizen is right; he's just a boy, essentially. If he's still 18 after 10 months together, he was either 17 when you started or only just 18 - which seems a bit wrong to me.
You are a young woman, but an adult of 3 years and he's a young man who's only just become a legal adult. You have 3 years on him, plus the 2ish years of maturing faster.
I think you're mismatched and should find people your own ages.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (12 January 2017):
 I don't think he is adult enough for you. Girls mature faster than boys. Perhaps he has a bit more growing up to do. Anyway you can't rush it. Perhaps you should gently drop him and find someone more on your level.
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