A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I never left myself fully heal from my previous relationship. We had a good relationship, and a bad break up, our fights were endless, and lasting months even after the break up, but eventually we worked it out, and still remain to talk, though I'm still pretty worn out from the eternal drama..Two months later, I thought I was ready to put myself out there again, but not fully. I knew there was going to be a wall up, because I gave my heart to my ex boyfriend of 8 months and got it broken, and my previous boyfriend of 4 months and got it broken. I thought I had learned my lesson. I never thought in a million years, within three weeks, the wall I had built, would be broken down by a guy I never imagined I'd even fall for.He is a good friend of mine. I confide in him for alot of different issues, and eventually it went from there.. Unfortunately for me, he is moving back to his home town in less then two weeks, so basically, another heart broken in my books. We decided not to date, and go any further, because it would be that much harder for us to say goodbye to eachother when the time comes. He told me earlier today, 'you know if I could stay, I would just to be with you' and I was like, 'if you say so' and he was like, 'What, you don't believe me?' and I was like, 'If you want me to' and he was like, 'no it's okay, you believe what you wan't' and about forty minutes later, I apologized and he sent me another text saying, 'I really don't know what to say or do anymore' and I was like, 'where is this coming from?' and he was like, 'My heart and head' and I was like, 'Does this change everything?' and he was like, 'As far as I know it does' and my heart just stopped.. Our plan was to enjoy the rest of our time together while we could, but all of a sudden something has changed, and I don't want him to leave without saying goodbye.. and I'm really scared, that now I'll have to stay away from him, as badly as I don't want too.I fell before I could even get back up again, now I'm laying in a even bigger mess then I had made before..What made him have a change his heart?
View related questions:
my ex, text Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): I am sorry you are so confused and feeling badly....but I have to ask you....you are aged 13 to 15. Why all the drama and urgency to be in a "serious" relationship. You have plenty of time for love relationships, at your age they have no wear to go but heartbreak!
Try not to get so involved or so dependent on any one boy....concentrate instead on you, your school activities, your family and what interests you may have or want to develop and have boys that are friends and have several at once.
I understand you may want to have special feelings for a special boy, but really is it worth all the drama? All the heartbreak as you say?
Be a kid, go out in the sunshine and get some excercise, that will make you feel immediately better, stop spending so much energy on figuring out what a boy is thinking and why because more likely than not what ever answer you come up with will be wrong and it doesn't matter all that much to the bigger picture which is your life.
Go out and live it.
A
female
reader, dangerouslove.  +, writes (25 March 2009):
 I suggest you put ALL boys off for a good amount of time.
You need to fully recover from your last relationship, depending on how serious you two were and so on, it could take months before you get over it.
Personally, I think you were really hurt over what happened with your last boyfriend, and clung to the first person who showed you the least bit of attention. It's totally understandable Dear, it happens alot. No matter how hard you try, unless you are FULLY over your last boyfriend. You will constantly compare this mate to your last mate.. Trust me, I've been there.
Don't settle for the next best thing, I'm really sorry about all your troubles, but if he is moving so soon, it had to happen regardless of what you wanted. Stickin around him, and spending as much as time with him as you possibly can will not help you any.. where does that get you?
Nothing but a even worse heart break when he leaves, it's better you accept that he has to leave, and its better that you do it now, then getting all lovey dovey, and who knows where that will lead you, sex possibly?
Ouch! Get out now, and cut him off completely.
...............................
|
