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30-35,
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writes:I been praying to God that I find that girl that is right for me. And on my friends last day of school, he wanted me to come with him to his school, but as much as i didnt want to go i still went, so when we made our first attempt to go into the school it failed, and my friend said lets go through the back way and as much as i wanted to turn around and go back home i still went. we got into the school and i saw one of my old friends, and she said hey such and such(saying my name) and then her friend heard her which i never seen a day in my life said hey to me, and i ask her did she know me and she said no, so i was guessing that was her way to get me to notice her, so i went talked to her and we exchange numbers,and then i gave her a hug and left the school, and on that same day she text me saying hey, so i started getting to know her, and on the second day she became my girlfriend. and its been about a month , i will tell her goodmorning everyday, compliment her everychance i get. we barely see each other, i only seen her once and everytime i try to take her out its always an excuse.we didn't talk as much as we usually do because everytime i txt her she's always busy, so i started to laid back texting her to much, because i thought she needed her space. and then she ask me have i been talking to other girls, and i told her yeah "my sisters and my auntee," and she replied i'm just to good. and then one day she called me and said, promise you want get mad and i replied no, and then she said i think we should just be friends and see where it goes from there, and she said don't stop texting her and calling her like i usually do, because i'm cool. and i thought she really liked me, because she actually came on me first, i would have never went at her if she would have never came at me first. what will make her just wanna be friends now? (She loved all of my poems, and she will ask me daily did i make a new one) why did she change her feelings about me?
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reader, ForverRed27 +, writes (16 June 2009):
There could be a few reasons why this happened. you never know but she could have easily been influenced by her friends if her friends secretly had a problem with you in whatever way possible.
And i know you said you tried to give her her space by not texting her as much but you still could have come off too clingy in the beginning...and the reason she might still want you to text her is because she likes the attention. Girls are weird...if you give us tooo much attention, we get claustrophobic, but if you stop or dont give us enough, we thrive on getting that attention back. But the "let just be friends" line is never good...but you never know, she couldve actually really liked you but something is going on back at home or something has distracted her momentarily...i say you wait till she wants to here from you
Also i have found recently that texting really gets you no where in life in terms of relationships and is very hard to interpret the other persons tone in voice and things are easily misunderstood. it is also super impersonal. maybe try talking on the phone more often. but i hope this has helped, i dont mean to be too harsh!
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (16 June 2009):
 maybe she feels you guys rushed into this too fast? i mean you never know she may just want to get to know you better as friends before actually getting into a relationship. or maybe she found someone else she likes and doesn't know how to tell you. just stay friends for now and perhaps talk to her about what happend ask her why she changed her feelings towards you all of a sudden when she seemed to really like you at first. she may just be a bit unsure of her feelings as you guys went out the next day of meeting and you hardly see eachother. anyways i hope this helps you hun good luck x x x x x x
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