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writes:I am with this man, we get into fights he has hit me a few times, enough now when he gets to yelling I am in fear of being hit again. I tell him to leave but then find myself missing him and calling him. He does come back this last time he came back, he doesn't want to ever have sex again, he don't want me in bed with him, he don't really like to talk to me. He was telling me he loved me but now he don't, he says he loves me but he is not in love with me. What kind of relationship do you think this is? Reply to this Question
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 he's treating you like a toy. Just move on it's that simple. Emotionally it will be tough though. But try to go out with friends.
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reader, Revanofdarkness  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 Um...why would you want to be with a guy like that certainly not because you like to be hit or live in fear i dont know if he was ever a good person or not and thats the reason maybe why you miss him but if he was always like that and keeps staying like this you should leave him i bet your a handsome women and you deserve alot better then being hit and in constant fear of him you deserve a man that wont hit you loves you and wants to be with you alot and make sweet to you whenever you two are in the mood. i personally wouldnt hit a woman and i beat the shit out of guys i met finding out they hit women so your better off without him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2008): An Abusive relationship...been there, done that...almost didn't survive. You have to get to the point where you accept that it is NEVER going to change, before you can move on. You can't change him, you can't fix him! So it's important to work on changing YOU! Keep telling yourself that you don't deserve to be treated like this. You are better off alone than the way he is treating you.
Ask yourself, what do I miss when he leaves? (The fear? the fighting? The verbal abuse?) I left 6 different times before I left for good. I finally realized that being alone, was easier than being with him! I also realized that the rage was escalating and there was a possibility that he would kill me at anytime! I am comforted knowing he will never hurt me again!
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reader, petina1  +, writes (24 December 2008):
 I think this is not a relationship. You sound like you have a very low esteem for yourself. He sounds like a very controlling man, one day he will hit you too hard and you will live to regret this. I will never understand why a woman would want a man who hits her, that is not love. Buy him a punch bag and if he doesnt take his anger out on that instead of you, then you must get rid of the slime ball. hope this helps.
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