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writes:I am going to be home from uni over the summer, so I won't be seeing the young lady I like until possibly until September (though as I only live a couple of hours away I will probably try to visit when I can)Our current situation is that we have known each other nearly 6 months, and have had one "proper date" (we went out for dinner). At the time I felt almost as though she has rejected me that evening, but afterwards I realised I had got that wrong, and that it was just that I was paying too much attention to what could be seen as negative, without me seeing all the positive things that evening and in the preceding weeks (she went to the effort of arranging somewhere quiet and private to meet, and cooked a late lunch for me, spending a Saturday afternoon together and then spending the following afternoon together as well). Anyway, I have told her exactly how I feel, and now realise I want to have a bit more fun before doing anything serious with her, so I don't think a dinner date is what I want next. Next time I see her, I'd like to give her a gift of some kind. Something fun and inexpensive. Any ideas?
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reader, Legioness  +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Ok, i've been thinking about this. And this may be slightly influenced by how i've been seeing this guy lately, but yea, what better gift than the gift of an amazing day out? Try and cram in a bunch of things she, and you both love, into one day, like going to an exhibition, followed by cinema or theatre, followed by dinner al fresco style in her favourate place. Just whatever she's into, make the day your own, and make it amazing, memories like that would for sure beat a simple gift like flowers or a book, and add that romance factor :)
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reader, dobro +, writes (24 June 2009):
dobro is verified as being by the original poster of the question OK, my situation is that I am unsure about what I want with her, and I think she is the same with me.
I do want a friendship, but I want more (romantic relationship more than physical). I feel if I hadn't told her everything and interpreted her responses as a rejection I'd be able continue on that path.
I have no questions as such, just please offer some thoughts and/or advice.
(oh I am hopefully going to visit her this weekend, I DO miss her!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2009): Get her a book that is entertaining, go to Chapters and wander around, there are some insanely weird and funny books being published now a days, there will be something there that will jump out at you. Go for the nonfiction stuff too. Look EVERYWHERE.
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reader, love-struckxo  +, writes (3 June 2009):
 FLOWERS = Can never go wrong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): Okay, well if you've seen some of the books she's read or talked about, you'll have an idea of what sort of book to buy. If not you could TRY and casually bring the subject of books up... But usually that can be an obvious sign you might be getting her something.
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reader, dobro +, writes (3 June 2009):
dobro is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we are in separate social circles. It was only by chance that we both happened to attend a meal hosted as a student societal event by one of my friends that we met.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): picks up any of the books i mean. Lol. Damn i've been doing a lot of typo's lately!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): You should buy something other than the usual stuff, something that would mean a lot to her. If she is into books then buy one that she's been wanting to read. You could find out by asking a friend or the next time you're out shopping go into a book store and you'll be able to see what she wants if she books up any of the books!
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reader, dobro +, writes (3 June 2009):
dobro is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell her big love is books! I just would not know what exactly to get for her in that area. I guess I can think of something.
Like I say though I am looking for something that would just show a bit of fun as I think I am a little too serious at times.
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reader, Legioness +, writes (3 June 2009):
What kind of girl is she? I have a thousand ideas, being a young lady myself and all, but you want to pick one just right for her yea? So, what is she into and what's her personality like? :)
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reader, shania +, writes (3 June 2009):
 Give her perfume, i wouldn't refuse it, most women love scents...or a book she might like to read? What is she into? what is her interests? that should give you some idea....but please...no tacky see through underwear or crutchless knickers, that will go down like a lead balloon.
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