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writes: Hi i would appreciate any advice you all can give me.I have this friend, she had been going through a hard time in that she separated and i was there for her when she needed me we worked in the same company and go on very well (or so i though)Anyhow there has been little things that i have noticed...certain things she would say. I worn nice tops sometimes and this one man in work would always compliment me, she would always say its looks like you are going out for the night..rather than working. When i was moving to another location, i said i would invite a mutual male friend of ours, she said yes i suppose, thats only if he wants to come, anyhow on the night in question, she was very different towards me, saying o look she has worn her new pants as you were coming....saying things my husband said about me...how difficult and demanding i am and what could he do...my husband told me she was making this up, its like she was making me look bad in front of this friend.Every thing i said that night she put down and tried to make me look stupid, to be honest she behaved like a right bitch.I have recently found out that she says one thing to one person and says something totally different to me!! I have decided to cut her out of my life as i cant trust her.What do you think her problem was???? she always played the victim and is an attention seeker, is loud and whenever i even get a little attention she does not like it...she gets on with people that are horrible to me...Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Well sweetheart it is simple she is jealous of what you have and that is it in a nutshell.
She cannot stand another woman getting male attention however innocent in may be as yes it is taking the attention away from her.
So she is separated but there is always more to relationships than meets the eye. It takes two people to make up a relationship and unless you here both sides of it how can we make a judgement eh!.
You were there as a friend when she needed you but if she is being bitchy then she is NO friend and I think you are right to cut her out of your life. If she comes crawling back then tell her exactly why you have withdrawn from her as you are not prepared to be treated like that by anyone especially after being there for her when she needed you.
You need to be good to yourself and with friends like that who needs enemies eh!
She needs to grow up and so let her OK.
BFN
Country Woman
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reader, Miss williamz  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Well my dear your girlfreind is jealous of you.from what i have read she wants to be like you.people appreciate you and they dont see anything about her.have you tried to tell her that she has changed towards?if you havent try express yourslf firSt then keep of from her shell just come back to you.be strong.and goodluck
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 Let her say what she wants.
How you think determines how you act.
How you act in turn determines: How others react to you.
If she says negative things about you in your back to Mr.X what do you think Mr.X thinks about her? He thinks this "Hmmm, I wonder what she says about me in MY back."
Others see in us what we see in ourselves, and no one can change that, but you.
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