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writes:I am a guy, a few weeks from being twenty years old. I have never wanted anything more in my life than to meet a girl who wants to spend time with me. So far, I have never had anything close to a relationship, I have only held hands with three girls in my entire life, and only been kissed once. No girl has ever acted like she wants to be near me. I said hi to a girl a few days ago and she looked at me as if I was dirt stuck to her shoe. What is wrong with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): And to whoever said I should be happy being lonely, because I'll get too many text messages if I'm not, I text random girls from chat rooms quite often, and I enjoy it... These girls in chat rooms who can't see me often describe me as sweet and cute, sometimes even adorable... Maybe I can't find a date because I'm 5'7", 130 pounds, maybe because my teeth are crooked... who knows
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2008): Thanks for the comments, but I already do the whole pretend I have lots of self confidence routine... I was thinking that maybe I'm too kind and respectful towards women? I see girls with rude jackasses so often... maybe I should act this way? And to whoever said to just find someone for a good date... I've set my sights even lower than that, even just a friendly conversation would be nice...
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reader, daletom  +, writes (20 December 2008):
I gave some suggestions for this problem in the thread "How can I meet men outside of college?" at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-meet-men-outside-of-college.html . They apply equally well to guys and girls.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): Well, thanks for any comments
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reader, Ed1337  +, writes (19 December 2008):
 Just don't think about it, I know its easier said than done, but if your constantly thinking about finding someone because your feeling lonely, you will look lonely and probably depressed as well.
Your still really young, just enjoy your single life. Trust me, when you do find someone and shes constantly texting you, you will wish you was single again :-) and it is true that love hits you when your not looking and least expect it.
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reader, Lib1 +, writes (19 December 2008):
 Student of life is right. I just moved to a new city and no one would even make eye contact with me and when I smiled at them they gave me dirty looks. Eventually, I started to give less than two shits about being alone in this city. I put on my iPod and started dancing down the street and people had the biggest smiles on their faces. One cook danced with me through the restaurant window!
I guess its all about attitude. If you feel desperate and alone its like you hadn't bathed in weeks and you reek of it. Plus you might have to change your expectations. Bot everyone wants to spend their LIFE with someone from the jump. Start with small goals like, "Man I'd want nothing more than a really great date with someone!" and see what happens.
Good luck.
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reader, StudentOfLife +, writes (19 December 2008):
 You are what you think you are. If you feel like dirt on someone's shoe, then you are and people will feel that way when being near you.
Think more of yourself and there is more of you to show to the world.
One thing I noticed, it's only when I'm not looking that I find someone.
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